Why does my friend's dad always blame me?

Haha that’s funny, when I was reading your question I thought the same thing and I was like I wonder if Nikki (ladydon) read this yet. =] Yeah and I’m the friend laydon was talking about. Her Mom was always blaming me for something she did kinda, and yes It p!ssed me off very much because I didn’t see why it was neccesary for her mom to act, um, “childish.” But she was just stubborn, but yeah stay close to your friend, because in the end it’s worth it, if you really care about that friend of yours. And in our case, we did, we had so much fun this school year and realized we were true best buds. :)

So like we said, stay close and try to prove to your friends dad that your a good kid and theres no reason to act that way. And trussst me, I feel for you. It’s annoying and kinda makes you mad especially because, you don’t understand what the problem is and just want to end it and go on with your life with your friend. If you need to ask me anything funmail me. :) Good Luck.

It seems like your stuck in a classic case…because my mom would do that to a friend of mine a lot, for one, don’t lose this friend. Keep her close, if your friend is a friend she’ll stick up to her dad like I did to my mom to keep my friendship going, and guess what. Everyones happy now! So we’re all good here, so just try to have your friend stick it to him, and maybe he’ll lighten up a bit.

“Child abuse” and he can get arrested for that. No offense but you make it sound like he can do ANYTHING he wants to her, you are not showing any positives ways of doing this. You asked us for help, and we gave you our opinion, if you don’t want to take it that is fine. Do what you think is best than, and I hope everything works out for you and your friend :)

You have to stop being negative about this, or else nothing will change.

We are saying that if you try to talk to him about the friendship, and he comes at you guys, or hits her, she can stay with you…because legally she can’t be in the house with a abusive parent.

Well that is good. Don’t stop, he will eventually get tired, and…does he have a reason why he doesn’t like you? I don’t mean like something wrong with you, but are all the lights on in “his” house? Or is he a drinker or anything?

Well I was scared too! My mom can be scary sometimes. Here2help (the friend that my mom used to not like) is on here and can help explain. But finally I got some guts and said, I can be friends with who I want. And she can yell herself too, I know…ugh scary mom sometimes. And if her dad were to hit her, she could have him arrested, so it’s a win win situation. Just try to have your friend talk to your dad, because I have been in that position before.

so, how should I tell him because he is sooo cute and I love him, but I am to chiken to tell him I like him

how about your problems? if you dont want to talk about yours then lets talk about this boy I like thats at my school.I love him and I think he likes me back. what should I do to tell him that I like him because im afraid to tell him. oh, but we do talk and hang out at school some times.

Yeah the ultimately best thing to do is report him for hitting her. That’s abuse and no one should have to deal with that. Report him yourself or tell your parents and they could.

Talk about any thing you want, we’re listening.

ok, so I have everything to know about, so now can we talk about other problems?

well I guess I could talk to people and set something up because shes like a sister to me and I dont want any thing to happen to her

Well there is a positive thing, her sisters help her out when they can. At least she’s not completely alone. Yeah if he ever hits her or something like that, she won’t be allowed to be living there. Has he ever hit her before?

I dont think her parents will like her living with me, plus her mom wont do a thing. its like every time something comes up that always ends up with her dad, the mom always goes and hides in her little shell. her sisters stick up for her though, kay, her sister, always does.

Yeah…because if he hits her, she can go stay with you.

Well I still believe that there’s a way. There has to be something that can be done.

How about you get an adult to be there while they talk, is there anyone she is related to that she can trust and that would protect her? Is there someone she can stay with?

hes just a jerk to me and always gets in my face for no fuc!ing reason. I wish I could just smack him and punch him so hard that he could regret every minute of his life.

What race is he? Your both 16, thats good, soon she will be 18 and will be able to leave and pick all the friends she wants.

Yeah I know, that happened to me and Ladydon too. I tried to help and we started to argue instead, her Mom almost made us not friends anymore. How old are you and your friend? Because once she’s 18 she can get out of there and be friends with who she wants.

plus, her dad tries to chase me away. her dad doesn’t want her to have any friends, but thats not working for me because im never letting her down and im never running away from this bad situation.

but shes too scared to speak up to her dad. she gets yelled at by her dad if she doesn’t eat the fat off of a chi ken bone. that is sooo wrong. she has a miserable life.

Oh idea girl, if you have another question just put it as another question so theresmore room and this thread doesn’t get locked. =]

He may be racist, but I”m not sure. Either way though, he doesn’ have a right to treat you that way. You shouldn’t really have to do anything, that is your friend who should be talking to him, tell her to not be so afraid, that you will be there. You guys can’t be scared, I was with my mom and it turned out for the best…my last option was moving out…and maybe she can do that if it’s a bad enviroment.

Yeah does he have some kind of personal/mental problem or is the problem not really known? And yes never give up on your friend. Explain to your friend (If you haven’t already) that you want to help and you want her to be happy, you love her and don’t want to give up on being friends because you want to be friends forever, you both have the right to at least have that (your friendship), he can’t control her forever anyways.

put it on a different discussion thing so it’s shorter, okay! Then we can talk about that!

well, if she tries to talk to him like that, he would probably smack her and yell at her too.

Has he ever pulled the black/slavery card on you?

no, not that I now of

hes black

Why what is he?

Racism is a very ugly thing and it is wrong…

well, he does drink and smoke and he probably hates me because im white

well, I cant do nothing to help her because if I try, we’ll end up in an argument like always.

Tell him to fondle the male anatomy and get to get his head out of his keester.

you could yell at her dad and say he has no rite to blame you say he aint got no prove!

my answer to this is as true as I can put it my friend dad blame me for a drug addiction I had nothing to do with and how she keeps getting caught up in the wrong crowds all I can say is talk to some who stand up and tell him straight up that your not the reason for everything and let it be an adult but make sure your known in the convo and your word are clear keep her close because you sound like your close to her so dont try anything to keep yall from talking so try and talk to an adult who tell him straight up you look t be 18 or 17 but what ever you choose your still able to make your own choice

me and her are both 16

yea, he has hit her before and he threatened me that if I ever said ouch or screamed in his house that he would kick me out and I could never come to her house to see her again in my life. that made me so p!ssed off that day.

What you and your friend? Well if she’s not willing to try then she isn’t really a friend. Bring that up to her, that if she isn’t willing to fight for your guys friendship, than she doesn’t seem to care, and if she really does care she should stand up to her dad.