How to help a suicidal friend?

in the past year I’ve had two friends commit suicide and have become suicidal one thing I wish is that someone would tell me what your saying you feel as hard as it may be to say he needs it right now also be as supportive when he brings it up as possible if he brings it up he NEEDS to talk about it dont go calling a suicide hotline youll make him more worried somthing is wrong with him

you need to have a serious covo with him.. & tell him how many people would be missing him if he were to ever do that and explain to him how his parents and all his friends would loose a great person if he were gone. also tell him just because life is bumpy right now things WILL get better. promise him that because they will.

ik exactly how you feel.im in the same situation with one of my friends. he is always saying how horrible things are and that they wont get better, and that every bad thing that could happen to him, it does. sometimes I dont know what to say to him. I feel the same way you do. what I do is I just keep him talking. I ask him about his plans for summer..or what hes doing this weekend. I always try to keep him talking about other things, especially the future because if they are talking about what they’re doing in the future then there not thinking they will be dead in the future. that’s one step to keeping him not thinking about it. another thing I try is telling him how much I care about him. let him know how much you would miss him or how much he means to you. tell him you’d be crushed if you lost him. dont constantly tell him however because you might make him feel guilty for wanting to kill himseld and that could make things worse. the most you can do is be there for him and try and be his comfort, the person he goes to because is he’s telling you he feels suicidal he obviously trusts YOU more then he trusts other people in his life, and that means something. if he’s telling you about it he probably still has some doubts, so hold on to that and dont let it go hope I could help…let me know if you need anything else

hey here are some tips for handling suicidal situations.

-ask the person questions. this way you don’t give them ideas or say things that will make them feel worse. -ask them how they plan to do it. when? where? do they have everything they will need? have they written a note? chances are they won’t be able to answer these and if that is true that means they have SOME doubt. realizing this will make both of you feel better. -if they came to you then they are not 100% sure. use this. hold on to this and do not let go. -try to keep them on the phone if they called you. if you are in person, follow them. do not let them leave your sight. -do not try to talk them out of their depression. it won’t work. -the most you need to do is to make sure they don’t kill themselves. -suicide is a VERY permanent solution to a very temporary problem. in a suicidal moment they dont realize this. tell them to wait 24 hours, 3 days, a week, whatever you can get them to agree to…chances are the worst of things will have passed and they will feel a bit better thus not suicidal by the time the 24 hours (or however long) is up -stay calm. you aren’t there to be a therapist, you are there to keep them talking to another person for as long as possible.

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As “after school special” as this may sound..you need to tell an adult that your trust, and sit down with the adult and your friend and talk about getting him some help. Just talking to him by yourself most likely isn’t going to change much. if a person is genuinely suicidal there isn’t much a person can say to them to change their mind because they aren’t thinking rationally at the moment and they may need medications or therapy. Your friend may be angry that you told a parent BUT I think its safe to say anyone would rather have an angry friend then a dead one..and eventually when your friend is feeling better..he will understand why you did what you did.. It isnt a matter of “ growing up” Depression is a very real thing..and there isnt a simple conversation that can occur to just snap someone out of it..Even promising someone who feels like this isn’t going to stop them from attempting suicide if they truly are considering it..because although they might feel better temporarily …when they are alone they might start feeling bad again and there is no way you can ever be sure that he will tell you again or that you will always be around him when he is feeling that way. The best bet is to support you friend while telling an adult. Good luck and I hope you friend feels better soon.

You really need to contact a suicide prevention agency. You can look in the front of your phone book and it should tell you the number.

im not sure. this is tuff. just try to stay close to him as much as possible. be around him. talk 2 him.

I have a friend to that tried to kill herself.You need to go tell a grown up.Try to your friend to going to therpy!!!Thank you for telling me,KAITLIN

Okay, I have first hand experience with this and I didn’t want to talk to my friends about it either, but trust me, if you tell him how you feel, and make him listen, then he’ll take it into consideration. When I was going to do it, I wrote a note to one of my best friends telling her about it, and when she read it she called me crying and told me how much she didn’t want me to do it and how much she cared and right then and there I decided not to do it. What I guess I’m trying to say is you need to tell him exactly how you feel. Even if it’s in a note because that tends to be easier. But tell him how much you love him and how crushed you’ll be if he’s not here anymore. He may surprise you and change his mind.

Having been on the other side of it, there’s not much you can do… yes it is nice to hear that people care (and honestly a thousand people could declare this, but in a warped world sometimes it doesnt make a difference… and people who are suicidal arent quite living in your world…) yeah its important to let them know that you care, but it is more important to get them help from a professional. I cant believe Im supporting this, but even if they dont like it, sometimes you need to do what is best for them, whether they like it or not… Tell a parent, or someone who can mandate help… And let them know that nothing lasts forever… even the way they’re feeling…