My dad left me

My dad went to west vergina what ever it is and said nouthing about it I mean I new he was going but he could of said something he did not tell us nouthing at all I am 17 and has not called us at all do you think I should call him and ask him how thangs are going or not I mean he went with his oldes son he is 24

Answer #1

Hi Christina, Well this type of situations sadden me soo much, because I myself have 5 kids and one of them is almost your age.
I have a daughter who doesn’t want to speak to her father he also left about 7yrs ago he started a new family and unfortunately for you kids, you wind up paying the adults bad choices as far as leaving the kids behind. I truely encourage you calling him, but, also prepare yourself to a response from him, please be aware that yes it can be a very nice smooth conversation, but then again it can be a deception to you.
No matter what at least you get things off your chest and you have a right to be heard. If you get the jitterbug write him a lengthy letter but let him know that you would appreciate a response and don’t give up until you get the response from him, remember you have a right to be heard. Regardless of what the whole story is and why he left he owes “you” an explanation, because it’s bologne that parents don’t have to explain to the kids. Hope something out of all this helps, good luck to you. p.s. I myself wrote a letter to my father, he left when I was 12yrs old and I continued to see him on and off throughout my life, but my letter was written when I was about 37yrs old too much time passed, so don’t let that happen to you. Oh yeah and he never told me nothing about it but his reaction spoke louder than words I can see he felt bad and guilty, but it’s ok I had a right to let him know how much he hurt me as a child. (we were at a fun family gathering and he went and laid on a couch and just pretended to be asleep).

Answer #2

Dear christina17_912, He didn’t tell you because he either couldn’t for emotions or he was afraid of your reactions. He had a reason for not telling you…right or wrong he had his own reason. Should you call him: YES indeed. Speak with him and tell him you understand that he may have been afraid to say he was leaving but you need to know he is safe and all is well. This will have him thinking and perhaps he will discuss this with you. Don’t stop keeping in contact with him…some times you need to be the adult in these types of situations. Sue…good luck

Answer #3

This same thing happened to my ex boyfriend. I’m so sorry you are going through this because I’ve seen the damage it can have. You could call him but something tells me it will just make you hurt even more. But if you want, call him and tell him how you feel and tell him how much of an effect its having on you. Maybe he left because he felt he had no use, and maybe if you call him he will realize you care deeply about him and maybe you can gain a relationship again. Its really your choice, I think you should give him a chance to explain himself. Just don’t start yelling at him, be an adult about it and hopefully he will be an adult back. I really hope the best for you, good luck.

Answer #4

well yeah he’s your dad.if he left you say dude,dad,what the f*ck?why havent you called? ya know.

More Like This
Advisor

Parents & Family

Parenting, Marriage, Childcare

Ask an advisor one-on-one!
Advisor

2 Dads with Baggage

Family Travel, LGBT Travel, Parenting Blog

Advisor

2 Dads with Baggage

LGBT family travel blog, Parenting blog, Travel blog