How can I fix my fiance's relationship with my Dad?

What were your boyfriend and father fighting about? There’s more to know.

I’m not going to just assume that your boyfriend is a big jerk here. There could be so much more to this story than we know. Look–some parents suck and are abusive. They’re mean and unreasonable. Maybe your parents are these things and your boyfriend wants to protect you and you’re hanging on to the hope that someday they’ll change. Maybe he’s trying to get through to you.

I am a believer that not all parents should have been parents and deserve to have their children latched onto them for life. I walked away from both my parents when I was 16. It’s sad and hard at times, especially as i get older, but my parents are terrible people. Maybe you’re in the same situation.

Maybe your parents are right and your boyfriend is some kind of control freak trying to ruin your life by talking you into getting married and leaving them.

There’s a lot to know here before advising.

Regardless of all of this–you’re too young to get married.

I got married at 21, thought I wanted it all. A family, a baby, a husband, a mortgage and two car garage. Then I got it. Then I saw all the other 21 year olds traveling around the world with amazing experiences and pictures and stories of what happened in Egypt and Mexico, going to concerts, making friends all over the place, working and living cheap and having a blast. Meanwhile I was at home getting dinner on the table for my husband who worked the night shift at the post office, 6 days a week. It didn’t start out that way. But you realize when you make a family, whenever there are changes in life, you have to do whatever you can to keep food on the table. Your needs come second to everything. That is a selfless lifestyle that you need lots of life experience to be able to pull off.

So go out and be young! Don’t marry, don’t tie yourself down until you’re older and ready for it. Have a boyfriend, sure. But marraige is not your wedding day and a pretty white dress. It is every day, for the next 50-60 years.

Important info to know…what is yours and your fiances’ age. Why are you in such a big hurry to get married?