How can I get my boyfriend's mom to like me?

Dear Typi, Mrs. Marshall said it best for your situation. If you do all that she tells you and the mom still hates you, there is nothing you can do. I would kind of go slow as far as marriage goes. A bad relationship with a parent-in-law can play hell with a marriage. I would do 2 things before you marry this guy.

1. If this mom does not change after you have done everything in your power to create a good relationship between you and her (Mrs. Marshall’s advice), make sure your future husband supports you, and how you choose to handle his mom. This includes if you have children….His mom is not going to run the show, make decisions for the grandbaby, etc….Let him know if you two get married you are forming your own circle, which includes you, your husband, and your children. MAKE SURE both of you understand this and that you both kinda keep this sacred.
2. If you can get you and your future mother-in-law’s relationship to be like Mrs.Marshalls, that would be the best. If this happens great….make sure it happens before you two marry or go with above #1. Familycoach.

that is sorta what i am going through i am trying to get my bfs mom to stop being a B##$% but she gave him up at 14 and me and him have been friends for a long time just follow your heart like i am doing

this is just MY outlook on it but…my husband’s mom and i were okay from the start and now we are the best of friends. that’s ONE good thing. MY mom and my husband hate each other and have for 11 years. will never change. i think you can tell from the very beginning how the future will end up being. so now it’s YOUR choice. like i said, that is just MY outlook.

i know exactly where ur coming from i dated my husband for 2 years before we got married and his mother quite frankly wanted to kill me.. he would spend alot of time over at my house and even when i was gone he would go see my mom and keep her company. it drove her nuts she even once called me up cussing me out saying she would do whatever possible to make sure we did not stay together. he is also her only boy and she was a single mother which brings their bond even closer. when my husband and i decided to get married we had to fix this but not all cases are fixable. we started spending more time at her house and her and i would go out to lunch. now she is my mother and law and she loves me too death. in most cases it just takes some time. but even if she wont give u the time of day if u love him, u cant change that so stay happy and just dont let what she does get to you

There is in fact nothing wrong with my attitude….the rest of hif family likes me and are fine with me….and my boyfriend is very concerned and he cares for a big deal for his mother, he in fact did things that others wouldn’t do just to make her happy and satisfied… the problem seems to arise because of me, anything he does never seem to be satisfying enuf for her… he may deny it, that his mother has this kinda thing on me, but I can tell… even my mom could.

omfg my bf’s mom is the same way they really need to let go..um..

my boyfriends mom hates me. she won’t admit it, but I know she doesn’t like me. shes always got a smile on when I’m around or she just says hi and then never says anything afterwords. she says I’m not good enough for him and we don’t belong together. she talks to his ex-girlfriend all the time, and she cheated on him and lied to him all the time, and she likes her more then me. I never lie and I never cheat on him. tell me how that makes sense? just recently I almost broke up with him because of his mom, but then I figured I’d be giving her what she wanted. I want to be with him, so I’m going to. whether she likes it or not, thats just the way it’s going to be. and I also think she’s jealous that he can talk to me about things and he likes spending time with me and his friends so he doesnt see her as much and she blames me for that. she always talks about me behind my back. yes, it bothers and upsets me a LOT, but I’m so sick of it I’m starting to not care. she’s really immature, and I don’t deal with immature people. if you love him, stay with him.

Okay well first impressios always count some mother aree hard to convince & I know what you guys are going threw!!Its hell to havee your boyfriends parents not like you,But just be polite&Look at her when you speak,

there isnt much you can do because right now im going through the same thing. its got to the point where I thik I should break up with my boyfriend to make her(his mother)happy. im not saying you should break up with your boyfriend but if it gets that far, it would be up to you to make that sacrfice and let him go Felisha

First, accept you can’t MAKE her like you….so do the best you can when you’re around her -keep a good attitude and a smile….you can control what you do, not what she does and if you haven’t done so, have a heart-to-heart with your boyfriend and ask him to do the same with her (his Mom)….all you can do is your best and hopefully in time that environment will change for the better.

Good Luck and God Bless !!

she need to realize that he has a life to its not always about her but ur boyfreind need to spend sumtime with her y dont u guys plan sumthing so all u guys could go like out to eat or sumthing

I believe its the way you look and what your doing with your life. A parent regardless being a mother, father whatever. a guardian, any gaurdian is going to look out for there young. so there hopes may just be higher than what you have bestowed upon them. so if you don’t meet there standards.. its up to them how they treat you.. some parents are too nice and keep it to them selves… but that doesn’t mean they wont go behind your back and tell there young to not be with you.. think about it..