How to get my Mom to like my boyfriend?

Having been on both sides of this as both the boyfriend and as a parent, I’ll offer my two cents.

Ask you mom what it is about your boyfriend that she doesn’t like. It might be due to you only being 13, or she might be thinking back to when she was a girl your age with a boyfriend. Either way, my guess is that she is worried that at 13 with a boyfriend, you might start thinking about sex. While it’s normal to wonder about it and be thinking about it, it would be best for you to wait until you’re older before trying it.

I can honestly say that when I was younger and dating my girlfriends, that was a concern that many of my girlfriends mothers were worried about. While I couldn’t come right out and say to them, “I’m not going to sleep with your daughter” all I could say to their mothers was that I respected them and their rules. I also asked them to help me by telling me what rules they had for their house so that I could follow them.

I also offered to help around the house when I was there and saw that the mom or dad was working on something. It brought me closer to the parents and gave them a chance to get to know me and ask any questions that had. It all comes back to communication. Talk to your mom, find out why she doesn’t like him, then see what you can do to improve things.

As for sex. All I can say is hold off on this. When I was your age I once was told something I’ve never forgotten. “Your virginity is a gift you can only give once. Be sure you give it to the right person.” Since then I’ve looked back at the women in my life. I didn’t marry my first girlfriend, or even my sixth. But I was glad I waited until the person I did give it to came along. We didn’t get married, but to this day we’re still friends.