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How do I handle kicking out my boyfriend of 7 years?

i recently kicked my boyfriend of 7 years out we have a 2year old son and one on they way he recently got into drugs. I told him i could not accept the things he was doing. i dont know what todo he doesnt suport me emotionally physically or financialy. Im depressed i am sad i didnt think it would be this hard considering how bad he has hurt me.i love him a lot but he wont change he left a week ago called me the night after and said he loved us and wanted us i knew i couldnt give in i had to stand my ground. he left a week ago all he took was a few of his clothes we are left with evrything making this that much worse how do i handle this?

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Answer #1

I have just done exactly the same as you, for exactly the smae reason, and i doubt my decision. We’ve been married for two years, together for 9 1/2 and have a son together who turns 2 in feb. We’d been talking about a second child but needed to stop fighting. I needed him to stop smoking and lastnight i was livid at him, I layed it all out on the table suggesting ways to help the situation and today he’s been out to the shed more than 5 time. I simply can’t let my child be bought up in this environment and I can’t keep feeling miserable. I hope I have the strenghth to keep him out of the home till he can sort himself out.
Remember, You are not alone, unfortunatly drugs seem to be more and more redily available today and this doen’t help but it does mean there are more of us that are standing up to the substance abusers and letting them know that it’s just not ok. There is nothing OK about if at ALL! xxx Ree.

Answer #2

It would really help if you got support. Can you call on some girlfriends? How about family? It makes things easier when you talk about what you’re going through and get help from those that care for you. It would also help if you clean up his mess and put it in a box or try to get away for the weekend. What you need is time and perspective. I think you did the right thing and down deep inside you know you did too. I also think it takes a lot of guts and courage so don’t give up!

The best thing right now is that you concentrate on you and your son, try to lead the healthy life you’ve dreamed of. Know that you’ll have good days and bad days, just be patient and everything will be much easier in time. Right now it’s hard because it’s fresh and it still hurts a lot. But Sue is right, it wouldn’t be any easier with your ex in the house, not until he owns up and proves he can be a good husband and farther.

Good luck!

Answer #3

Dear angel198505, Congratulations for sticking with your decision. Being a parent is difficult but that is what you must be a parent. You cannot allow your son to be raised by a drug addict. Of course it is hard to be on your own, to loose the one you love to drugs and to be a single parent. It would be a lot harder if he was still in the home. There are a lot of resources for single parents and a lot of support. Seek out these places and rely on family if you can. Unless your husband goes to rehab he will not be fit to be in the home. Do not be a enabler by allowing anything other than clean and sober parents…this is your job. Sue…good luck

Answer #4

WOW Life just sucks

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