my boyfriend doesn't "last long"

When my boyfriend and I got together 4 months ago, he used to last at least 10 mins or longer when we had sex, depending on how long it took for me to get off. Slowly it’s gotten to the point where he gets off after 2 minutes. We have tried different things and looked things up but we are at a loss for what to do.

  • he doesn’t have health care that would be able to pay for anything
  • desensitizing cream makes him feel nothing at all and I can’t enjoy it if he can’t feel it
  • he said he has NO warning when he’s about to cum until it’s too late
  • once we used the cream and he came and didn’t even know it
  • after cumming once he’s soft again for at least an hour and we don’t have time to just lay around waiting for it happen
  • we always use condoms, he is really big but we’ve tried all sizes to see if smaller or bigger ones would help and they don’t
  • he is willing to try a cock ring but I think it might be kinda strange to have something down there, it’s something we will probably try though since he doesn’t have time to try to control it himself
  • I told him to masturbate more when we’re not together so he would get desensitized a little

I realise that he could just get me off in other ways but I want to have sex with the man I love for more than 2 minutes at a time. I don’t feel like a real woman, I just feel used sometimes! We have talked about it like adults and it just seems odd to me that he has all these excuses and I’m really frustrated that I’m the one that’s always doing all the work and getting nothing in return… sorry my post is so long, I’m just getting upset about it because I’m afraid he’s using me…

Answer #1

hes not at all using you, guys cant help how long they last.. im sure he doesnt like finishing in 2 minutes thats not something guys are proud of. I think you should try having him stop when he is about to cum. like each time he gets close stop for a min or two and when the feeling goes away start up again usually this not only lasts longer but leads to bigger orgasms. good luck!

Answer #2

The average to last is 5 minutes for a guy so when you start change positions a fair bit, also get him to slow down, use thicker condoms or even 2 of the ones you usually use You could also have sex more, if you dont have sex that often he wont last long

The c*ck ring might help but if you dont have sex much anyway the results will be minimal

Answer #3

Thanks for replying, but he said he can’t even do that because he doesn’t even know he’s about to cum until it’s at the point where he can’t stop it. One time he said he was about to and I said “not yet” to see what would happen and it stopped him, but the next time we tried it, it didn’t work even though we stopped moving. It hurts to have him repeatedly move his penis completely out of me otherwise we’d just go for a minute then do something else… maybe we are just not sexually compatible lol

Answer #4

sorry double post!

Answer #5

Firstly start by wanking him off ( not fucking at all don’t let him put his cock inside you) take himin your hands and jerk him off watchinghjs face closely and feeling the changes in his cock As he is ready too shoot his load( for most men this is their face screwing up in a horrible often pain like expression heavy breathing and their cock throbbing or pulsating as they shoot some men scream or cry out ( especially men who are heavy cummers and really empty their balls when they shoot) then stop and squeeze the base of his cock and also his balls if required do this several times when you toss him off somyou can both know and learn when be is ready too shoot and too stop it and delay him cumming, he should also domthis everytime he wanks himself off which he should continue to do everyday. As you both learn when he is almost their try the same technique only having him in your mouth a’s well as masturbation do this for a week and you do some pelvic floor exercises to develope your vaginal muscles so They will also learn to grip and milk his cock during sex( a woman with strong vaginal muscles will know when her man is going to cumand be able to grip his cock too stop him and also work and ride his cock too make him shoot thick fast and hard) try this for a week sonyou both have learned when he is about to come then arrange a romantic evening a proper date and at the end of the evening go to a quiet romantic a e too have sex either home or a hotel don’t rush it have lots of foreplay using the hand and mouth techniques thenlethim ease inside you slowly and gently slow his thrusting down if Its required and let him thrust inside you slow and shallow at first too control him then a’s he last longer let hum thrust fasterand push deeper inside you until his full length isinside you and he is thrusting as deeper a’s you both want him too then fuck him for a’s long as he can last stopping if you have too using your pussy muscles then at the end of the sex when you and he both know he is about to cum let him shoot his load deep inside you and empty his ball let your pussy muscles milk his balls dry and a’s you collapse in an orgasmic heap together tell him you live him and that you have just had the best sex you have ever had.

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