My bfs 24 and im 19

I’ve known my boyfriend for bout a month now we offically got together on 4.5.09 and he has a kid already she is 17 months old.. We was talking last night and he mentioned about kids I said I wanted one but not tillim 23 or somthing like that but he seems to act like he wants one now im scared in case he does try somthing.. We havnt had sex and I dont plan on having it yet either..im not on the pill or anything either my mate has said I should go on it asap in case he does try something im just not sure what to do is me dating him wrong ?

Answer #1

yes I no I gota be carefuly but like he should even think bout this yet I told im id b ready in 3 years time if stil togheter and that but with my past records they get bored of me neways because don’t get what thy want x

Answer #2

Some men think that if you have his child he will always be and your life no matter what he might be one of those men.he will be and your life as far as the child but sometimes it is not about the child the same way women trap men with babies men can do the same thing so be very careful.

Answer #3

I’m sure dating him isn’t wrong, but if you’re that worried about getting pregnant, then you should take matters into your own hands - protect yourself instead of relying on him to keep you protected.

Answer #4

If you don’t plan on having sex then I don’t see why you should waste your time and money getting on any kind of birth control but if you do plan on having sex with this guy or anyone else for that matter, you need to be using some kind of contraception if you don’t want to get pregnant. It takes 2 people to want to have a child together. If only 1 person wants a kid, there will be trouble for sure. There’s a bit of an age gap in your ages however, not that it’s a problem but he’s probably getting to the age where he wants to settle down a bit sooner than you since you’re only 19 years old. Let him know that your both still very young and have plenty of time to be thinking about kids.

Answer #5

yes I totally agree that takin it slow is what I should do.. but im staying his on sat and that because havin a party and drink and stuff im hopein that it wont get too outa and as well im sure he is a lovely lad form what I no he is just his past not that bad his ex is trying to make his life hell by not letting him see his kid and that probly somtin to do with me as well:(

Answer #6

You’ve only known him a month, (apparently started dating right away), and hes talking about kids already? He already has a child, and the mother & him arent even together.

my mate has said I should go on it asap in case he does try something>>That would have me thinking not so good thoughts.

Its too soon to tell if dating him is wrong, but I would take things a lot slower than what he plans on doing!

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