my boyfriend's friend always flirts with him... should it bother m

my boyfriends friend from highschool always calls him and sends him flirty messages on myspace saying stuff like “you know you’re such a great guy, I wish you were mine” or “we should get together sometime you know, so I can see what I’m missing” and I ignored it for so long (we’ve been together for almost 4 years now) but just recently shes been sending him more and more messages and texts and her profile pic on myspace is of her practically naked!

should I just try to ignore it or talk about it with my boyfriend or what? I know he’s going to say something like you know shes just a stupid girl or something like that.

what should I do?

Answer #1

She’s most likely getting the wrong message. And be careful about how you approach the situation with your boyfriend, because since, as a lot of people have said, men are “dense”, he might get the wrong idea and think that you’re not trusting him, which can most likely lead to an argument.

Answer #2

You should accept this. Best friends have some privileges. Rather you should join the joking style and atmosphere. That is the best. Do not be a sour person when people are smiling and joking.

Answer #3

What erasmus said… women are manipulative little things, and guys are just plain dense sometimes… tell him you know she’s just a stupid girl, but that because he doesnt say anything, or do anything about it, she may be getting the wrong message. ask him how he’d feel if a guy was saying those things to you. tell him you trust him, but it bothers you and you would like him to get her to stop (he could just send her a message going, “my girlfriend wouldnt like that very much” or something like that…)

Answer #4

uhm talk to him a bit, if youve been together for 4 years this could be a problem. taking from scientific studies most people in ‘love’ loose the sensation of love for the partner when 4 years have passed.

anyway check it out he might be doing something behind your back but dont be too paranoid, I mean she publicly said it meaning she didnt keep it a secret at all from you. maybe its just a joke or something they have between them (friends can have a different relationship than lovers)

BTW practically naked means nothing, you could put a bikini on and you are in the same position.

good luck

Answer #5

yeah,dont kill her…yet.talk to him about it,then calmly talk 2 her.

Answer #6

I think you need to address this situation because (trying not to worry you just saying one possibility she might be trying to get him to break up with you or just have sex with him. Women are kind of screwed up like that. And, guys are kinda dense when it comes to stuff like this so he might not think this is a problem but it could lead to one. I think you should talk to him about this and let him know that this makes you feel uncomfortable with her sending more and more pictures of her with less and less clothes on each time. She might as well be stripping for him in his bedroom.

But, he probably isn’t up to anything but she might be. So, you should talk to him about this.

Answer #7

Yes I have the same problem. This chick is really getting into my head, you just cant help it. Dont worry, if your boyfriend loves you,she wont have a chance to get him. Shes just a try hard, dont feel down because of her. You’re way better than her, thats why he chose you. If you are really annoyed and want this to stop, consider talking to your boyfriend about it and he might find a way to stop it. If he doesnt do this, dump the loser, if he really did love you, he would find a way to stop this chick flirting with him.

Answer #8

I would worryy about it, tbbh. I’m like that girl who’s stealing him. Whenever my friends get a new guy, out of school or new in the area, I always end up flirting with them. I can’t help it, it’s just fun knowing that I could get them. And I get every guy I go for. She IS a threat to the relationship. Love from a boyfriend stealer..xoxo

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