I cant handle my mom anymore, what should I do?

ok so im 14 , ill be 15 in august . but me and my mom dont get along at all !! and I dont know what to do anymore . . . I’ve tried to get along with her but every LITTLE thing ticks her off . she doesnt work . maybe like once a week . whereas she used to worked everyday all day . like tomorrow im leaving for camp and come back friday . and she said lauren please make me a list so I know what to get you at the store . so I did . and then before she leaves she asked if I wanted to go to the store with her . and I said no . and she just went off completely . and she was like give me you phone and computer , you are acting like a two year old . and I said how am I acting like a two year old and she said you dont want to go to the store cause you dont FEEL like it . and I said I had better stuff to do (cause earlier she had told me to clean my room) and then she was like you are so selfish and ungrateful and I said how and she said you are making me go to the store and get you crap . and I said mom , you offered to go to the store . and by then I was pissed and all teary-eyed cause I hate when my mom yells at me (practically everyday) and she said I dont care if you are miserable and teary-eyed every freakin day . stop being so lazy . oh ok IM lazy ?! I go to school , I cheer year round , she asked me to clean . and IM lazy ?! yeahhh .

what should I do ? I cant handle her any more honestly . . .

Answer #1

I had the same problem with my mom when I was your age.

Try to be nice to her… She is really depressed because she is not working and feels useless… it’s hard when you are older and realize your dreams may not have come true and the goals you set for yourself never were accomplished.

Your mom probably doesn’t know how to talk to you about her problems and instead tries to make it seem like you are “bad” in order to make her feel like she has a “job” - something to do, I.e. reprimand you.

You should have gone to the store, as much as it would have sucked, but it makes sense right? She’s buying you stuff… if one of your friends offered to buy you things, wouldn’t you feel obliged to go with them and keep them company? Your mom was probably lonely and just wanted a friend… Keep in mind she is just a person like anyone else and probably has a lot of problems too.

Hope I helped…

Answer #2

HAHAHA I was gone write the same thing on this website and I am 15 in august and she is telling me same thing to do. HAHAH andshe calls me lazy aswell but I do loads of stuff. Well I am moving out when I am 16 I had enought of her. xx

Answer #3

I think you should honestly think that even though it’s hard to handle your mom most of the time, you should think about the fact that even though you can’t stand her, she is your mother, and I think that if you really love her, you should try your best to do something that can change things, and make everything better :)

Answer #4

just ignore her it works with my mom sometimes just if she tells you something just agree with her but otherwise don’t talk to her stay in your room and eventually she’ll come to you if that doesn’t work fun mail me or something I’ll give you advice :)

Answer #5

My mom gets crazy like that too. I’m sixteen and I can have the worst attitude, but I never do with my mom. Shes gonna make you cry, Try not to cry and it wont be as fulilling to her. Dont get mad or yell back. Just take it. Dont give her any mean looks or rude guestures. if she asked a questin answer short and simple. Its hard to do at first, And im sure youre going to go to your room and cry a lot. but it will get better. She’s yelling because her life is hard too, With teh economy and having kids.

Answer #6

Think about every side of the story.You have to respect her side as much as yours.You are her daughter and she shouldent have any negative feelings towards you unless you have dissapointed her or hurt her feelings.If this is true,she might have lost trust in you.Just give her time to cool down.Parents these days are put in more stress than ever.And theyre stress is like a virus that spreads.So far,you have got it.Give her space to clear her prolems out,while shes doing that,clear out your problems.She has reasons to get mad ,just as much as you.Unless the reason are not really sufficient.I hope this helps.

More Like This
Advisor

Parents & Family

Parenting, Marriage, Childcare

Ask an advisor one-on-one!
Advisor

Being Mom and More

Parenting, Pregnancy, Books

Advisor

Mommy is a Hero

Parenting, Family, Lifestyle

Advisor

Proud Mummy

Parenting, Community, Moms

Advisor

MakeAmom

Family Planning, Health & Wellness, Parenting

Advisor

advocateinlahore.com

Family Law, Legal Services, Islamic Law