Why is my mom treating me like this (read more)?

If you are this hungry, you would eat your grandmother’s food…and don’t cut.

I’m just going to say it like I suspect it is. I don’t buy your mom doesn’t care,. She works at Publix she works a hard job and not raking in the big bucks for her efforts. She’s not happy with your grades because she knows you have to really strive to be at the top of your game to make it in the real working world. She wants you to do better so you have a better life when you become an adult and have to make it on your own. I saw your age on your profile and all I’m getting from what you’ve posted is she is trying to have you grow up and take some responsiblity for yourself and you want to remain the little girl. If your age is correct, there is no reason on this planet you can’t cook for yourself. I see kids on here 14 yrs old asking about jobs so they can to pay their own way in buying things they want. Your mom sees you and your age as evolving to a young adult and she’s trying to get you up to speed. It’s time you drop the little girl role for the adult you are becoming. As for the cutting…I agree with Kimi that it is deep emotional issues it’s not about drama.

Take it from somebody who knows, DO NOT CUT YOURSELF!!!!!! It may seem like a quick fix but it isn’t your just using your physical pain to cover up your emotional pain. It messed me up even worse when i was doing it. I am now regularly seeing a therapist and am on antidepressants. Please do not follow in the footsteps that i have laid out it isn’t worth it. It hurts you relatives even more when they find out. I understan the draw to it because i used cutting when i got stressed or sad or angry or anything and it didn’t do anything. Talk out your problems with your family before doing something so stupid and irrational. I would know i have been there and as i say “I’ve been to my dark place, and i don’t ever want to go back.” I really wish i had never done it i was cutting for 4+ years before i figured out that i shouldn’t don’t do it please!

I totally understand what you are going through. I have been through a lot myself. It was hard for me because my mom has FAS. She would never cook for my siblings and myself. She didnt care i know that feeling of not being loved or cared about and just pushed to the side. I have cut myself before. Its not what people always say. Yes, in the time it makes you feel better but later on you’ll regret it . I began to hate myself and would beat myself it became a problem. I found cutting myself addictive and didnt wanna stop. Then realized it didnt work to a poitn where i tried to kill myself. So its not worth it do not do it. I also stoped eating to a point i slept for 2 days without waking up and would always faint. Now i have low blood sugar problems and have to check my blood sugar levels often and have to have a snak every 3 hours. Its such a pain. Have you ever sat down and talked to your mom? Well i think you should say mom i would like to go out for coffee(tea, hot chocolate whatever you drink ) and sit down and pour out your feelings. It can help to talk to someone. Also, why dont you cook your self food? At age 12 i was cooking all my own meals each and every day. It is extremely important to eat healthy and a lot. Or help your grandma cook? They would probably love the help. Tell your mother that you love her. Most people will respond back and tell they love you. Or Ask mom do you love me because im feeling like this …. Communitcation is so important. You should also maybe focus on fun actives or sports you enjoy. Maybe ask your mom to go see a movie with you every so often. it sounds like you are feeling pushed away , not loved or cared about , even not important. People cant read minds some people cant even tell how people feel so tell them they must know. She can probably help. Just please dont cut your self it will cause more problems then solutions. Please learn from my mistakes and dont cut your self . Just talk to your mom. You can even bring up that you dont like your grandmas cooking. she will most likely wanna help you and might have a solution. Also if you love your mother to death just remeber cutting yourself would hurt her so why would u hurt someone you love ? ( i stopped because of my friends and my boyfriend it hurt them and well they are my family). Hope this helped sorry it was very long! if you wanna talk you can send me a message id love to talk and help you out and just see how you are doing ! Good luck <3 :)

The grades part. All shes doing is pushing you, when she says ‘their ok’ she means their good but they could be better. On the food part. Cook something yourself, i mean if you where so hungry you would do it & probobly your great greandmas food would sound soo good right now. You are old enough to do some stuff yourself since your mom does seem to work a lot. I’m not meaning to sound harsh at all is just the reality of it. If you think your mom is nnot taking care ogf you in any way then tell someone, but i dont think this seems to be the situation.

how old are you? serious question I dont mean to sound rude