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How do you get over missing your parents when you move out to go to college?

And after that? And if you can’t visit as often because they live 500 miles away?

See, my parents moved me from New York City to North Carolina, and I’ve been living here for about four years now. I absolutely HATE it here, and I wish they’d move, but my sister keeps telling me that they’re old (55 and 57) and don’t want to move. I want to move back to NYC so bad, but I am also nervous and sad about leaving my parents. I’ll be going with my sister who is 34. I know at least I’ll have her, but nothing beats your parents right? I can’t stand living here, but I can’t help thinking about what if they die and I’m up there? So what should I do? I really want to move, for college, and going back to NY, but I’ll miss my parents, moreso my mom.

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Answer #1

Ill try and help you as much as i can aha..but im still in middle school going to hs next year.but anyways..you can try and get into some things like games or activites and get socially active..if your friends are going some where you can join along as long as you know its safe.i mean just make sure you have lots of calling of your mom and dad for the first couple weeks..but after a month or so you should be doing better.i hope everything works out alright for you.

Answer #2

You will miss them at first, write to them, call them, visit home on the weekends. Soon though you will be so busy with school and with your life, that feeling will pass and youll find yourself just enjoying college life.

Answer #3

It’s really hard at first, not going to lie. I missed my family like crazy when I was at college. But being away from your parents for an extended amount of time, at times, will be inevitable. So it’s something that you need to work on.

How? Well, like Mandy said, you’ll need to do things in place of visiting your parents when you simply can’t. Call them, write to them, and if you guys are all in tune with technology, do web chats or send each other photos! It won’t completely ease the part of missing them, but it does get better in time. You will appreciate the visits you get to have when you do have them and you may not want to leave, but you have to stay strong and remember that they would want for you to have a good education and life. Sometimes branching away is one of the keys to success.

Good luck with things.

Answer #4

Get involved in things and meet new people. Its much harder when you dont have friends around you and things to distract you, because you have so much more time to think about all the things you miss from home. You can write to your parents, its not as good as seeing them, but letter are fun!

Answer #5

Unless your parents are sick, there’s no good reason to think they’re going to die. You’ve gotta leave home some time. You cannot constantly obsess about them dying while you’re not there. You’ll adjust. It took me a long time to adjust. I graduated at 16 and definitely was not ready to leave home. And so I hated my first couple of months (you think 500 miles is tough, i was 7500 miles away). But it gets better. You visit a lot in the beginning. You email and call a lot. Then you get busy with your own life. And if you dont (which you will), you can always transfer back. It’s not the end of the world either way.

Answer #6

Did you go to another country?

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