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How can I get my parents to let me move with my boyfriend?

I have a year left in college then I’m going to move to FL to be with my boyfriend he is there already-for 7 months. We have been together for a year and a half. My parents never really liked him from the start mainly because he was 21 and I was 17. Now I’m 18 and he is 22. Our birthdays are in a month. He makes me very happy. My parents don’t want me to move down there. They want me to move home for awhile and save money and find a new boyfriend here. I am in Maryland and he is in Florida. how can i talk to my parents and get them to like my boyfriend more and not hate me when I move? Any advice on what I should do?

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Answer #1

This move is a year away. I’d focus on other things right now and then worry about this when the time comes.

My opinion is that you should never live with a lover until you are married or over 30. Am I some tight conservative? No. I just think that it’s way too important to develop yourself and your space before you mix it with someone else. I was married and had a baby by the age of 21 and thought I just knew it all about what I wanted. It seems that the second you become an adult you think that it means that you automatically get to fulfill every impulse you have. That’s the best way to make a load of mistakes and to end up with baggage by the time you are 25. Just think about the next year, focus on studying and seeing your boyfriend when you can and when it comes time to move to Florida, get a roommate or two and your own place set up. Expect and ask for no help from your parents That’s the only way you’re going to be able to earn their respect in this situation. Parents do not like to support or foot the bill for their kids doing things outside of their wishes. And that’s a fact.

But seriously–just have fun a college and see what the next year brings. Do you really want to live in Florida? It’s kind of uck there.

Answer #2

You are your own person and can make your own choices, your parents just need to realise that its not like you’ve only just met this guy he has been with you for over a year, and you have survived a long distance relationship with him, so he is committed to you and if they cant see that then its their issue. Talk to them about how you feel becos they are only going to push you away in the end.

Answer #3

Your parents won’t hate you for moving. They might not like your choice but they will always love you.

If your parents are still paying for your school than you do have to play by their rules. When I moved in with my GF I cut the pursestrings and got a job. I suspect that my parents would have cut off my funds when I moved in with my GF so I became independant so they wouldn’t have any leverage over me.

Follow your heart. If you really believe that this boy is the love of your life than you have to go with him. Your parents have to learn to let go and to be happy for you.

Answer #4

WHAT THE PARENTS THINK OF THEIR CHIDREN IS ALWAYS BENEFICIAL FOR THEM…………………………………………………………….. SO LISTEN THEIR ADVICE,IT IS GOIN TO HELP U .

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