MENTAL BREAKDOWN!

Okay…My best friend and i discuss how we are only friends and nothing more can result form me and him. And that I love someone else. He knows that. But tonight, he asked me to go take a drive with him to talk about some problems he was having at home. Obviously, i went. We talked for about an hour, when he leaned over and kiss me. I must have been blind because i didn’t see it coming at all. I pushed him away adn said I love someone else. Then I drove him home without saying a word. I was crying because i trusted him that he knew what we were and that nothing would happen. I am so mad I never want to see him again EVER! And I then told the guy that means the world to me about it…and he said because i was crying, he thought i was guilty of actually kissing him instead of him kissing me. and so we just talked for about 2 hours and he still only believes me 70%. The thing is…the one i love warned me about the other one. He said that he was not as innocent as he appears to be around me. I didn’t believe him because i thought i knew the real person and he was just trying to talk crap. But it turns out that my love was completely right. And now its a huge mess about whether to believe me or not. He says he loves me but i don’t think he does or he would believe me. I know his view and I could see that I would react the same way if we switched shoes, but i would not do that to him. How can i convince my love I am not like that and i would never do anyhtign to hurt him because he means the world to me?

Answer #1

awww hun don’t think that! im sure the guy you love, loves you too, myb he didn’t beleive you because at the moment it was to much for him to take in and also maybe bcuz he warned you about the guy and you didn’t listen.. why do you think you we’re so upset? do you think you might have feelings for the guy you kissed? and that’s why you feel guilty? you really have to take time to reflect on the situation and just take time to your self. i hope this helps. Trust me i know how it feels to be cheated on, its really hard to take in but eventually you have to realize that the person that did it means ALOT to you and you mean alot to them, he might take a while to realize that but he WILL. they say that trust is the most important thing in a relationship so you guys might have to work at that, but im sure everything will be fine. i hope this helps xoxo

Answer #2

Just because he kissed you doesn’t mean he’s not the same person all it means is that he really cares for you and he felt like it was a moment for him cause you were there for his time of need. Don’t let it change your relationship just know that there’s more than one person that really cares for you and consider your self lucky.

Don’t be so angry at him i’m sure he’s feeling really bad about it and wouldn’t want to loose your friendship. But by telling you BF you kinda made him into the enemy and that’s going to be hard to deal with.

Let him know you apreciate that he cares for you but you are devoted to your BF and you don’t want to do anything that could hurt him. As for your BF not believing you, you could not have told him but chose to cause that’s how much you care for him and you don’t want to have any secrets from him.

Hope this helps a bit.

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