parents over stepping my mental boundry

ok first of all im 16 I did a real stupid thing and ran away but it wasnt stupid cause my mother wasnt listening to how I feel only to how she feels.im dateing a 19 year old its legal in every way but now im under “contract” which states im not aloud to talk see or anthing or else he has a pfa put on him… shes not consitering that he and I love each othershe tell me amilion exscuses that hes and asshole and hes nothing but a scumbag and he wont treat me right .. but he does she only sees the asshole him cause shes trying to pull us appart and thats why hes defending. she says hes not my one and I tell her well let him prove that but she wont .shes not consitering my feelings what so ever she has taken a man I love and put him beside cause hes doing what proves me he loves me but its not “ proveing” to her I say leave me alone but he knows I like to be persued so I know he just wont let me go my moms way of him proveing it to me is backing off till im 18 but whats that proveing to me??? it proves he dont want me …what side do you think is wrong .. meh or my moms and what can I do to make this situation thats throughing me into a mental sleep coma (sleeping more than useual) to repair whats shes hurting

Answer #1

Well,she is obviously over protective.She sees how your feeling for this boy.She has probably made a mistake with boys when she was your age.You have to see every side of the story.You need your space from your mother and your are well on your way to becoming an adult.You are 16,and im pretty sure you already know the risks to sex and love and how you should be careful and all.Your mother wants you closer to her,but she is pushing you away…You ran away too.Your mother does have a right also to worry about you and be concerned.But she is taking it way too far…I mean a contract??? Dude,thats harsh.She is constantly telling you crap about the person you LOVE.She is being selfish there.She seriously does need to back off or you may run away and never comeback…You should let her know that you are following what you want and you are aware of everything going on and you know what youre doing.Let her have her opinions about him,let her know you are mature enough for your choices…But she is your mother too,and he is 19…She is just worrying over you…But be sincere and tell her you appreciate her concerns but,your growing up and are gonna be on your own soon…She is maybe afraid she is going to lose you.But she is only going to lose you if she makes this situation more severe with her actions…

Answer #2

I’ve had my days where I use to get ready to run away then I think twice about it, what I have, the family that truly loves me, and what my mom has done for me. Then I sit back and feel guilty for even thinking about it. I see where you’re coming from you love this guy, but your mom doesn’t trust him - so you run away, which that gets you into more trouble. You guys should sit down at the table and have a talk ask her to listen, not to interupt even if she has a comment. Explain to her calmly what he means to you. And why he acts the way he does. Then let her have her say in the matter wihout interrupting her. When she’s done - you guys should talk about trying to work things out - a way you can still see him. - and a way you and her can stay calm with eachother.

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