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How can my girlfriend and I get her Mom to support us?

ok, me and my girlfriend have been in love for six months now, we are online dating but we really plan on seeing eachother. theres only one thing that stands in our way, her mom. her mom hates my guts, she tried everything for me and my girlfriend to break up. but gladly nothing worked. her mother controls her life. she tells her what clothes to wear, where to go, what to do. and its driving me and her completely mad. we both can take this anymore!!! Ive tried EVERYTHING in my power to see her. and now, since she starts homeschool again, her mom cut down her computer time so she can only check her mail. we may never get to talk to eachother again! i cant let that happen! ive asked my girlfriend if i could talk to her mother, but it seems her mother doesnt want to. and ive told my girlfriend a million times to stand up to her mother. she cant have control of her life like that. there are a couple of reasons why she doesnt like me. 1. shes mormon 2. my girlfriend is not 16 yet. well to me, religion doesnt matter and age dosent matter either. and another thing, ive tried to get her mom to see that i am who i say i am. i have a webcam. me and my girlfriend wanna see eachother so badly but first we hafta get her mom to understand. so what im asking is, how can me and my girlfriend get her mom to understand.

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Answer #1

Dear draco_ookami, You left out a few important facts like your age…you state that age doesn’t make a difference to you…but it does to most people especially if the girl is under 16; there are laws that we as a society follow. Also religion may not mean much to you but to religious people it does and that needs to be respected. Mom has a right to be cautious because no one has met you in person and yet you proclaim love. I more than understand how a relationship can start online but to love someone totally would require spending time with that person and knowing the good and bad about their habits, morals and values and that can only be accomplished when you spend time in person with someone. So you need to understand where mom is coming from. But what do you do? If you are not 5 years or more older ( if you are, move on…find someone your own age) I would suggest at this point write mom a letter explaining the situation, give her all the information she needs to do a check on you, perhaps a contact number to your mother; someone she can relate to and most importantly remember to respect her religion and since you cannot/should not control either her or her daughter…perhaps not give advice to her daughter at how to show disrespect to her family might go a long way in your plight. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

That is a tough one!I would say that you should e-mail her more than anything if she isn’t allowed to go on the computer often.If you have an e-mail address give it to her.If not get a yahoo e-mail or mail.com e-mail.Find out hers and start e-mailing her.I am sorry about you and your girlfriend!I HOPE EVERYTHING GETS BETTER!

Answer #3

ummm to tell u the truth get a job to suport urself…

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