love at first sight

Which lasts longer: A house made of straw, that only takes a few minutes to build, or one made of brick that takes many months to build? Sometimes “dazzling” attractions can last a whole lifetime, but they almost never do, and not unless you’re willing to MAKE it last. The feeling will always come and go, even in the most perfect romance there is. You should think of it as a bonus, rather than an essential part of your relationship.

Now that that “dazzled” feeling is gone, it’s time to think sensibly about how you feel for this person. Does he care for you? Unless you can think of something specific that’s wrong, if I were you, I’d try giving a little bit more to the relationship. Not a lot necessarily, but more than usual. Bake him a cake, or spend some time doing something new with him. See where it goes.

No two relationships are the same. This may be the one you can be happy with for the rest of your life, and maybe it’s not. Once the “newness” wears off, then you can be smarter about it.