lost my girlfriend to porn and masterbation

I disagree with bubux. His ex is without a sense of humor? Wheres the humor in any of this? His gf had every right to break things off. Not all girls would except their bfs being a porn addict. Most want to be put first in their bfs life! Besides, she didnt take a vow “for better, or worse” with him. Pornography can become a harmful obsession, because some people put so much time and energy into searching for and looking at porn, that it gets in the way of other areas in their lives, such as school, work or spending time with friends or family. Excessive use of porn can also alter in a negative way a person’s views and expectations of how sex and dating relationships should be.

I think that what most of you are failing to read and understand is that this person has said that he is “addicted” and can’t stop. My ex-husband was the same way. In the end of our relationship, he was masturbating to porn a couple of times a day. Did it bother me? Of course it did, because I never felt as if I was good enough. He said that he had a high sex drive and that I can understand but when you feel as if you are competing with porn stars, you feel hurt and angry and do feel cheated on, because the porn when it is excessive, does replace time that you and your husband spend together. I pulled away completely from my ex.To me sex became dirty. He was also involved on personal websites and that killed me. I don’t know if it was the thrill of the chase but I couldn’t take it anymore. We were going to go to therapy but he continued to deny that he had a problem, but then again that is what addicts do. They have to admit that they have a problem before they can go for help.In the end, regardless of whether he was right or wrong, it affected us and therefore something should have been done.In the end he chose his porn over me.Now he can masturbate to his porn whenever he like and I can now look for a man who loves me more than his addiction. So for all of you above? Yes, masturbation is not bad and is normal, but it is a problem when it interferes with other areas of your life. Hiding it from your g/f or spouse is your brain telling you that something isn’t right, or you wouldn’t be hiding it at all. As for the woman out there? Trust your instincts. If your gut tells you that something isn’t right? Then it probably isn’t.

hi, angelfire2708, you are right, but a g/f who is in real love should try to change (to help) a bad habit at least once, and not braking up immediately. As far as I know even wives take notice of that some males used to masturbate even when have a partner. So, as a g/f, the 1st time I would had made some sarcastic jokes on the situation, then I would had tried to exploit :) the big sexdrive of my b/f.

I am sorry that things didn’t work out for the two of you, I guess she just didn’t care for the porn thing. I know my guy watches/looks at porn and it really doesn’t bother me, cause I know that he loves me and appreciates my body and our sexual relationship. Maybe you never made that clear to her before she caught you. I accepted a long time ago that guys will be guys… and guys watch porn and masturbate. Cutting back a little on those things wouldn’t hurt, but in my opinion she overreacted about the whole thing.

Your g/f was not right when broke up with you because of this story. I think she is too prude for you: she is without clemency and sense of humor. For you it is unnecessary to feel guilty. The point is that your sex-drive and sexual imagination it stronger than hers/or the average. After this brake up I start to understand why you watched other girls. OK, next time close the door if you have such a g/f.

i think that its normal 2 masturbate, and ur gf should kno this....but if i were u, id try 2 persuade her that things like that are normal, every1 does such things, and id apologize for watching porn....u shoud tell her that u love her so much and no1 is more beatiful than her (this should work)......tell her that u did terrible thing and u cant stop thinkin of it, of course that u r sorry bout it. I`D SO THIS…….

I did that once.Broke up with my man.And I’m 18 years old and a girl.But I broke up with him.Because I was scared that he wouldnt talk to me.So maybe it was because she didnt know what you were going to say or do.

But now I’m back with that guy and happy and I still check him once in awhile.

But just to let you know checking a guy doing that turns on a girl.It doesnt matter if your thinking of her or somebody else it just does.Just like porn turns on guys.