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How do I get him to leave me alone?

Okay so 3 or 4 years ago I reconnected with a person that I knew from highschool. We were never friends b4 but we got to talking and eventually I started liking him. Well he gets me hooked and then starts asking me all these dirty personal questions at the time i was too wrapped up into him to tell him that the questions made me uncomfortable. Well we were ‘friends with benefits’ for a while and that’s all he seemed to wanna be…so when my now current husband asked me to be his gf i said yes. I moved on. And ever since the guy is now trying to cause trouble between me and my husband. I have blocked him on skype and on my phone (calls only can’t figure out how to block his texts). I’ve blocked him on facebook. But he constantly texts me asking me the color of my underwear and sex facts about me n my husband which i find inappropriate…i’ve told him this and i have even told him i wanted nothing more to do with him if he couldn’t just b a friend without wanting something more. He will go without talking to me for a little while but pretty soon he is texting me again and saying that i was the one being unreasonable and that talking isn’t cheating on my husband…but telling him personal details about myself seems like it to me and he doesn’t seem to respect my feelings on this issue…also something i have told him…how do i get him to leave me alone????

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Answer #1

You have made it pretty clear that you “… wanted nothing more to do with him if he couldn’t just be a friend without wanting something more …”.

You have taken steps to prevent further contact, of an inappropriate nature, as far as possible. Yet he persists in pestering you with the same inappropriate questions, that you have indicated are not welcome, via texts that you have been unable to block.

This is nothing less than harassment - at a level that is a criminal offense where I live, in the United Kingdom.

You need to stop this unpleasant pervert once and for all, before he takes it upon himself to force his unwelcome intentions upon you in a more threatening manner.

I think you should inform your telecom provider, asking them to block any further texts from his number(s), and you should discuss the matter with your local police and/or a solicitor, to determine whether he can be given an official warning about his unacceptable behaviour.

I also think you should keep a full written record of dates, times and method of any further contact that he makes, together with a summary of any inappropriate things that he conveys.

That type of written record may prove essential if it is necessary to obtain a Court order to prevent any further contact.

Answer #2

You need to change your number and stop texting back. If you’ve made it VERY clear that you don’t want to speak with him then he is harassing you. You can take up legal matters if it gets bad.

Answer #3

i guess the main reason I haven’t had charges brought on him already is because he lives in a different state than i do.

Answer #4

Agreed with Santa(wow I feel weird typing that).

Answer #5

I’d sue., I’d let him know that if he called you once more you’ll sue for sexual harassment. If he tries again, do it.

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