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is it my fault my grandmother died?

my grandmother died a few years back and when she was about to die she told me to get her a pillow I got the wrong one. then instead of me talking she had to talk because I didn’t know he information and then when she went to the hospital they didnt want to tell me so then my cousin came (age 51) and told me she moved on.

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Answer #1

I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother. Its hard - I loved my nanna like a mother but maybe yours asked you to get her the pillow because she knew she was ill and didn’t you to see her and get upset. How old were you? Your obviously not a doctor or nurse so its not your fault you didn’t have all her information. Know she loved you and is probably still watching over you.

My granny was in hospital a week before she passed away. I was 14 and loved her. I gave her a teddy while in hospital so she wouldn’t be lonely. She said she’d give it back to me when she got out of hospital. The day she dies I was in visiting her and she gave it back to me. She must have known, maybe your granny did too

Its not your fault, we lose the people we love just know you loved her and won’t forget her. Check out Rob Thomas - Now Comes The Night beautiful song with beautiful words

Answer #2

I’m sorry about your grandmother but in no way was it your fault. Getting someone the wrong pillow couldn’t have slowed it or stopped it from happening and you shouldn’t blame yourself. I know it’s hard, and it’s easier to take the blame than anything else but you can’t in this instance. It wasn’t your fault, whatsoever.

Answer #3

OMG no of course not sweetie don’t put that upon yourself…its really not your fault..listen everyone has to go GRANDMAMA was just getting a bit old..you know..just know she loves you…dont ever say that someones death is not your fault unless you actually killed them but other wise do not pin that on yourself..

Answer #4

no it is not your fault at all, and sorry to hear that about your grandma

Answer #5

No no no. Of course you didn’t, a different pillow would not have stopped her moving on, or slowed the process. Don’t worry, It sounds like you were a good grandaughter to her, very caring.

Don’t worry =]

Answer #6

wrong pillow? umm. I don’t think a ‘wrong pillow’ could kill someone.

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