Is he trying to control me?

Your boyfriend is bipolar. That is tough, really really tough. At times, he is going to do things he feels like he can’t control, or he will lose his temper. You need to be prepared for this, but it doesn’t mean you have to take it. You need to talk to him and ask him what he was thinking and how he was feeling when he did this to you- it is NOT okay and you could have been hurt! You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel safe. Let him know that if that happens again, you may need to back out of the relationship for a while until he’s figured out how to control himself. You said no, and that was perfectly alright. He cannot force you into anything, if he does that again- leave until he’s learned how to better handle this difficult but possibly dangerous (for you, and for him) disorder.

That is the same with me and my bf (im 14 and hes 16 too!) but my friends always seem to find out the things that he does that are semi violent if he keeps getting worse or at the same he is right now tell him without laughing at all make it completely serious, that you do not like his agressive/violent behavior or make sure someone is there a lot of the times.

Hi. I’m 15 and have a boyfriend who’s 20. He has so much more experience than I do. And sometimes he has tried to get me to do stuff but I’ve said no not until marriage. And hes backed off. Men are men. I’ve came to the conclusion that when they want something they want it and no isn’t the right answer. You should talk to him about what he did and tell him that it really scared you. You can ask for an explanation about why he did it. But, if he tries to finger you again and your not in the mood just move away. Show him you really mean no. I hope this helps and feel free to message me at anytime with anymore questions.

Ok you need to let him know that it is not okay for him to be agressive or violent with you no matter what happens. If you arnt ready to do anything physical with him them let him know that, dont lead him on and then pull away cos that will make him mad. Just tell him straight out you arnt ready and if he doesnt like that then tough, leave then. Dont let him control you, you are your own person and make your own choices.