Is a baby what I need?

You want to know why you feel that emptiness? It’s because you feel lonely, and unwanted. You feel like you want to be wanted. Having that child around, they will depend on you, and need you, and maybe even love you. That’s what you want. but what you don’t realize, is that that is the most SELFISH, reason for a baby that a mother to be could make. You want a baby because it is convient for you and because having that baby around will make you feel ‘better’. Do you realize how many YOU’s there are in that sentence? Do you realize that you are a 15 year old girl, with so much potential, and that you are going to throw YOUR LIFE and YOUR BABY’S life away by doing this? What type of future will you give that child? That child is not going to be all you, that child will have a mind of it’s own, a will of it’s own, and yes, for the first 5 or 6 years, they need you and depend on you. But later on, when they realize your mistake and realize that they couldn;t live up to thier full potential all because of your selfish desires, who is going to feel loved then? What happens if she is 14 and wants to have a child with an older man? Are you going to stop her, or if she is in your shoes and she wants a child at such a young age! Are you going to let her do that? Would you not want her to wait and grow up so that she can provide her future children with the BEST. So they can have music lessons, and sports nights, and school dances and preschool! They can have someone DRIVE them there and pick them up on a regular basis, someone to meet their teacher and tell them what they do for a living? You are in no condition to raise a child if you think that having a baby will solve your problems. You are being selfish and simply absurd. That child will grow up on a rocky ledge, and never know the things that children who grow up in mature, well balanced homes do. And you can gove your future children the BEST if you wait, and educate yourself, make yourself stable finacially, find yourself a promising job, and a home that is in a place that will give a child good morals. Children don’t have children, dear. And no matter what you think, at 15 years old, you are a child. No matter how tough your life has been, no matter what experiences you have had, life you’ve seen, death you have seen, you are a child and having another baby will not solve your problems of emptyness and melancholy feeling. Finding CONTENT in yourself, is where it starts. Because you need to feel complete and whole as a mother, so that you can give EVERYTHING to your child. When you have a baby it isn’t about YOU. It has to be about them, everything must be about them. And the reasoning you use now proves that you cannot handle that of of yet.

Wait, your children in the future will thank you. Thank you for waiting to give them a promising and stable future, and a home where they could grow up to be promising people.

You need to focus on education and building a future for your children to be. Not simply having them so early that everything is incomplete andbroken, because they will not thank you for it.

She’s right ^ the environment is a big issue. Plus, who the baby will be around & where. How it will be raised…like the person ^ above said it’s not all about you…

The other people may not (though they probably do) but I KNOW my opinion hasn’t changed..

Have a baby at 15, you’re NOT responsible Keep being a responsible 15 year old and DON’T have a baby.

to ‘’llewellyn’’ to answer your question

I have 4 months left of skool I know all about fertility and reproductive anatomy-I took a course with my auntie as she is a midwife and I have a large sum in my bank account- if you think im selfish and iresponsible go ahead but I know baby will complete me and my boyfriend just got a promotion so got a raise and I managed to get a fairly well paid job. so im not that irresponsible. my auntie felt the same way whens he was my age and decided to wait like you have all said. when she turned 21 she found out she couldnt have kids.

do you still have the same oppinion?

Well as a responsible 15 year old, your first responsibility should be to complete your education. Then establish yourself in a good job. Then make sure you are settled in a steady relationship. Get married. THEN have children. There are way too many children having children today. You should be part of the solution, not part of the statistics.

you might like kids and enjoy hanging out w/ them, but you are too young, no matter how responsible you think you are. wait tioll your older. you gotta think about the baby and how the baby would grow up not just about what YOU want!

Minnie, don’t encourage someone who’s very young.. and yes it may feel good but sometimes it brings responsibility along with it.. you two are both kids enjoy your young years.. don’t worry you will get older and once you do you will wish you were still young..

Yes! Have a baby! If it makes u happy with a baby around, then go ahead! and, anyway, if ur a virgin, then let me tell u, s*x feels good! good luck, mother-to-be!

your WAY to young. defnitly not ready. i would say wait until ur 22 or 23, then would be a better time otherwise people are going to think ur a slut.

I think that you should wight until you get married have a house and save money and have a job. I think what you need is a friend. Taking care of a baby on your own is really really hard. but helping someone out with theres is always cool and you can enjoy there baby and still say in school and have a baby with the man of you dreams!

You might think you’re responsible, but if you are considering having a baby at 15, I assure you that you are not. Before even trying for a baby you should:

-Finish college -Have your own place -Take prenatal vitamins -See an ob-gyn often -Know about fertility and reproductive anatomy -Know about prenatal and child development -Have some money in the bank -Have a job that will offer maternity leave or a partner who can handle the bills while you’re out of work -Have health care for you and the baby

I highly doubt you have accomplished that at your age. Having a baby before you can give it everything it needs would just be irresponsible and selfish.

I think you should do what you want to. It’s your life.. if your sick of living it to the fullest and being able to go with your friends and do things then go for it. You should talk to ur partner about it though. See how much he is commited to you. I’m in a relationship right now we’ve been dating for about a year and we want to have one well more like he does and I wanna live life. I think u should live life to the fullest and enjoy being without big responsibilites. Maybe you’ll find somethign else that makes you feel happy. Shouldn’t your boyf make you feel bright and full instead of empty?

Well depends on how oldyou are? When you have a child you give up everything fun in life til kids are able to stay home alone or grown up… Mostly til they are grown up. When I had my kids I took them every where til one time they could not get in.. Sometimes you just can’t find a sitter when you need one.. I would wait til you settle down and take the time to raise one. Do not rush in to it. Live life to the fullest and enjoy life while you can… I am a mom of a 20 yr old and 17 yr old. Kids are a lot of work. Babies you get less sleep.. Lots of work kids are. So take your time.

Having a child of your OWN is a realy BIG Responibility. Your child will require alot of seeing to, atention, love, care, food, shelter and money to provide some of the additional material such as, dipers, milk, clothes…etc

Spending time with some others child is totally different. One because your not there with the child 24/7, two becasue your not there 24/7 you dont get to see the additional responsibilitie that come which you need to be able to act on to give a child the right upbringing. Three, your only young your self and it’s good that your in a stable relationship but in the long run what if it doesn’t work out? then you’ll probably be left on your own with a load of responibilities to take on.

Your still young, have fun and enjoy yourself while you can.

Hey!

Well im am a 15 year old. I have younger siblings and i love them so much but then i’ve been staying home and watching then since they was born but then i never had time to hang wit frends. Well i think that yooh should finish up sku nd have a good time in high sku. Yooh have ur whole life to get a baby i jus dont think its a right time to

I hope i haved helped yooh out.

If the question even comes to your mind “is a baby what I need” thats probley the first sign that you aren’t ready. When the time comes, you’ll know. Good luck.

I Think You Should Wait Because You Know What They Say”Don’t Fix Anything Unless It’s Broken” Stick With What aaliyah Said Cuz Its The Truth.

She’s right ^ ..it’s not a giga pet/ nano…

Well I think its totaly young to have a baby at 15 tbh because you havent left school & not a job & its a lot of responsble & when your older your going to want to go clubbing & everythink & not allwayz people will be able to baby sit your’ll be missing out fun you really want a baby more near to yours 20 because you would have more of a life of fun clubing out with a friend & having a baby is a BiiG responce ,