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Informing a friend about abstinence

Advise to a friend about STDs> What advise, based on research/experience/knowledge, would you give a sexually active friend regarding STD prevention? The friend is extremely sexually promiscuous and appears to be not responsibly concerned with attracting an STD. This friend has the intention of being married sometime in the near future and feels that they should get all the sex they can before tieing the knot. I am not absolutely sure on how to broach the subject about sexual behavior. I need some statistics and also some sound information to pass on. I have been researching the American Health Association for answers or a better approach. The AHA is a very good research tool and is loaded with information on prevention. However, it does not offer the one-on-one approach to a friend.

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that they should get all the sex they can before tieing the knot.

This one is very weird (to me), and I’ve heard a number of people have this attitude before getting married - both men & women. Thing is, if you really love somebody, and are planning on tying the knot already…then why on Earth would you go around screwing everybody else in the interim? Does that sound like the commitment, or promise, of life long love to you…?

I know that more than 70% of men cheat in a committed relationship, and more than 60% of women. So, if it’s a guy, the odds are he’ll do it sooner or later…and if this is the behavior in advance, do you seriously think that the behavior will change following the ceremony? Odds are, no.

And…imagine how they’re fiance must feel, if they knew that their future spouse was humping everything in sight like a stray dog - they’d be upset, and for a good reason! I’d mention that to your friend, in a nice way, and honestly ask how their fiance would feel, if they knew. I’ve been married six plus years myself, and committed to the same person for almost nine, as long as we’ve been living together & dating, well in advance of the marriage.

Good luck with your friend.

~thedude.

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