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He's "abstinent" but I'm a freak..

First off, I’m a 17 year old girl in high school. I speak my mind, and I’m a very straightforward person. Well, there’s this guy that I’ve been crushing on for the past two years.. & let me tell you he is different than any other guy i have talked to. He makes me so nervous and I don’t even know why! We’re starting to talk a lot more than we used to, too. We text each other everyday, and we even went to the movies once. So the other day he told me that he had a thing for me.. (does this mean that he likes me?). & I definitely have a HUGE thing for him, but I don’t know how to tell him. Plus I really want to spend some more time with this kid, but I don’t really know what to do with him. Also, I really want to have sex with him. It doesn’t have to be right away, but I want it to happen. I’d prefer us to be dating of course! The only thing is, is that he’s “abstinent”, or that’s what all of his friends have told me… How do I get him to want to be bad? Like I know he’s down to makeout, but I’m not sure about the other things.. Please help me with this! I’d like to hangout with him within the next like 2 days! Thanks! :)

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If you care about him, you’d just respect his wishes. Don’t try to get him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Discuss this thing with him, I mean it’s just something you heard from his friends not him himself. But all in all, if you care about someone you do not try to force, pressure or dissuade them from doing what they want to do. If in fact, he wants to remain abstinent you make the choice whether or not you truly want to be with him.

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