im livin g in hell

Okay, don’t listen to the first girl, she’s retarded. DO NOT sneak around to see him. You’ll be a mom…be responsible. Take care of the baby on your own and just deal with it until you’re eighteen. Then you can do whatever you want. You have to just suck it up for the baby’s sake. Its not going to hurt him/her to go four months without seeing its dad…dont be selfish.

My Parents Were The Same Way But I Was Only 14 But Talk To Your parents, if that doesnt work then go to the law.Its your right to have a baby and be with who you want assuming hes not like 20 and your only 17. DONT SNEAK AROUND be smart about it,or just wait it out when 18 move in with him.

I don’t think they can control what you do, especially if you are going to be 18 when the baby is born. Don’t worry… I’m sure things will turn out ok. Best of luck, Jess.

talk to the law about it. sneak around if you have to

Try to get in contact with local support groups. Ask your doctor, nurse, school counselor or supportive friends for help. You can also do an internet search for groups that support and council teen mom’s or single moms These groups can help you find other groups and they ca also help in giving you advice on the best way to handle this.

Be firm with your parents, explain to them that you need their AND the fathers support and that you will continue seeing him even if this means having to see him out of the house (they can’t stop you from seeing him outside of their house).

Start making a concrete action plan on how you will make and save money to take care of yourself and your baby. Talk with the father of the child to find out what he (and his family) can contribute and what his ideas are. If leaving your parents house becomes inevitable then start by finding out about social housing or a cheap place to live.

Most importantly, stop losing precious energy on fighting with your parents. You need to start concentrating on you and your baby now. Tell the calmly and maturely (no accusations, screaming or arguing) that you really need their support but that you are not willing on excluding the father of your baby out of the child’s future. Be honest and firm, tell them you will continue seeing him and that you will also try to find groups and people to help you find housing and continue schooling if they can not help you. Also tell them, that you will need all your energy now for the baby and refuse to argue anymore. Let them make up their own minds about how they want to deal with the situation but stop trying to cox them into it. Just do what you have to do while respectfully keeping them informed about where you are going and how long you think it will take. After all, they can’t tie to a bedpost nor physically stop (or harm) you from getting the help and support you need. That would be against the law.