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I have a 24 year old sister and my 17 year old sister staying with me for a while.. my older 24 year old sister is going threw a divorce and she has a 2 yr old.. My 17 year old sister is 9 months pregant. Im the middle child and I have my life put together.. im not rich, but I have my finances under wrap.. mainly because I dont live beyond my means.. Its been along time since I bought myself anything.. My daughter is 9 months old.. I buy the cheapest diapers and only spend money when it is nessasary.. im not asking anything out of either of my sisters for staying with me.. I just ask for them to pick up after them selves.. But They dont! My sisters son gets into every thing and she doesnt watch him AT ALL!! she has him on no sceduall he stays up until 2 am! and she hasent taught him to talk or be pottytrained!.. all he does is wine and cry.. I feel so used I do all the house work.. so today all day.. I have been a on edge.. I ask then to do anything and I get the responce “whats the point ?, he will just mess it up again..” am only 20.. and I cant handle the stress.. I do all the food shopping.. I clean.. and I cook.. for all these people.. I feel like im the only one watching her son.. I get up with him.. I watch him all the time.. I feed him, dress him.. I bathe him! My sister says she is sick.. when ever she is tired and goes to her roon and leaves him out.. my sister gets money and she just goes off any buys herself clothes.. or goes to the bar.. She never takes her kid with her.. I cant take it anymore! I feel so unsettled and over whelmed.. my sister takes every thing I say and turns it around.. she thinks im saying she is a bad mom.. witch in MOST ways I am.. but she doesnt change when I talk to her she just gets all mad and freeks out.. leaves and doesnt take her kid! she spend hours on the phone saying how mean I am.. is there anyone who understands my situation… my sisters son is spoiled and drives me nuts.. and if I say anything she tells people I hate him! what do I do from here?

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Answer #1

wow…I understand your stress and anger. If I was you, no matter how much it may hurt, I’d tell her to leave. And tell her what she’s doing to you and how it makes you feel. She’s going to get defensive and turn it around on you, but only because she knows what you’ll do…you won’t kick her out. She needs to live on her own to not have you taking care of HER son. If she stays with you, shes just going to keep doing what she’s doing.

Answer #2

She is probably glad also…

Answer #3

Well I took your guy’s advice I kicked my sister out.. she doesnt call me anymore.. she went to california to live with my mother.. I talked to my mother and she said my sister goes out ALL the time and she is pretty much raising her son.. My older sister seems like the type of person who will never grow up and be a mom.. she is just completly selfish and loves dramma in her life.. Im glad she doesnt live with me anymore!

Answer #4

Kick your older sister out. Then make the younger one start pitching in and pulling their weight, or you’ll kick her out too. It isn’t being mean to them, it is being right. What did you do to desreve that crap? You are mean to yourself. You are being mean to that little boy by letting his mommy not parent him. Maybe if you kick one sister out, the other will get the clue, and not pull the crap the 24 year old is doing. How long has this been going on?

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