I have found out that my "mom" is actually my grandmother

From what I’ve read in your question, I don’t see any reason why you can’t move in with your biological mother. I’m sure that she would want you with her this time over there in Texas. Here is the part that bothers me, why didn’t your mother want to keep you as a baby? And, why did she give you to your grandmother? But since your 16 now, your mother might accept you. So, I’d give it a try and see how she reacts. I agree that at 11 years old at the time, you didn’t understand what went on in the family as far as who you belonged too. I probably would’ve been the same way. Now that I’m 23, and live on my own, I always wanted to go back to China where I’m originally from and find my biological parents. I’m afraid to do that since China is pretty bad and I feel so much safer here in the US. Like I was saying, you could live with your mother for awhile and see how she reacts. And, if she doesn’t like you living with her, then you could always go back to OK.. I wish you luck, to reunite with your mom. My prayers are with you. God Bless.

Well it’s your choice,I don’t think they can do anything about it!She is your real mother and if your grandparents love you they would let you go were you think you belong with.

If you want to live with your mother then do it. I can’t see why anyone wouldn’t be tempted. I mean being reunited with a mother you forgot about? Heck yeah, I’d say yes. Though I’d be pissed that my whole life was a lie.

I was adopted by my grandmother not by my moms choice! my “so called father “ didnt want my mom to keep me. she wanted to keep me and raise me but they wouldent let her. my dad talked her into signing the papers that were only for temperary custody. and they paid the lawyer and the judge to where it was not temperary to where it was permenate. she did not want to give me up they stole me. they made it seem like she was going to get me back but they lied to her and made her sign the paperwork. she has been looking for me ever sence she lost me when I was just a baby im with her now and im happy where I am im not getting lied to and im not getting abused and im in a clean enviorment.

You know, why not go “visit” your bio-mom this summer, before you pack up and move?? Check it out a little, before you decide to make it permanent?

I don’t know the circumstances that caused your grandparents to raise you as their own…but I do know this (being a grandparent, myself)…They took you in and loved you…they’d already raised their family, so there was sacrifice involved. They must love you very much.

Have you talked this “moving” idea over with your grandmom?? Maybe get a “feel” for why your mom needed to let you be raised by her mom…

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wow thats a shocker!!! I was adoped I dont know any one in my blood family so your lucky you know your family be greatful and keep on loven your grammy also im positive your mom loved you she just didnt know how to show it or she wanted a better life for you please dont thing that she like that. thats what I thought about my mom but then I leared that she did know how to show her love to me please lover our mom back

Thats your choice, your guardians, and your moms choice if your grandparents are listed as your main guardians, then they have to switch that back to your mom I think then you can live with her im sorry, thats sooo weird…interesting though, I’m happy your getting along fine (I hope) well good luck:)