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I want out of my marriage

I want out of my marriage but I don’t want to hurt my husband or my kids, I’ve been seeing a married man for about a year now he also has 2 kids. I got married just cause this was the first real realiotionship I have ever had no one in high school ever seemed to want to date me or hang around me,so whenhe proposed I said yes after I got married istarted having several older guys hit on me telling me how pretty and sexy I was and how much they would love to be with me. I never seen myself as the cheater type, unitl I meet Jeff the great guy I am seeing now on the side we have know each other for ever, we get along great we can talk about anything and everything. and we just enjoy each other company we make one another laugh we had almost had sex unitl someone walked in on us. How should we handle this, but neither one of us wants to hurt or spouse or kids. He has been married 3 differnt times. this is my first time.

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Answer #1

My mum did the same. She cheated on my dad with a married man with two kids for years. She’s moved out now, she moved out two days after my 13th birthday and she’s been gone for about 7 months. My dad suspected it all along, and even I did too. The signs were all there and it was easy to peice together. I was confused when I saw the little flirty signs between my mum and the guy, I was young then. My mum hid her phone from me and she spent her time with him instead of us. I felt like the replacement or second choice. My brother hasn’t talked for her for months because of it. He said it’s ruined his life and it’s really brought him down. He hates the guy for it. My mums boyfriend’s kids are a pain, and my mum hates them too, they are noisy, messy and don’t help at all. To me it seems like running away from me and my brother to another man and his son and daughter. Your situation may be differant, and even if your children don’t seem to notice it, they could. I never told my mum that I was noticing all these things. I hope you make your choice after thinking long and hard. It’s not good to be a young girl with a mum who left her for a man whom was her dads best friend. Not good at all.

Answer #2

You make me sick. I hope your children disown you. What you are doing is wrong and selfish. You are nothing but a homewrecker. And he is nothing but a cheating lying jerk. I hope he crushes your heart and leaves you with nothing. Because that is what you diserve.

Answer #3

First off.. the moment you cheated you made up your mind that you didnt want to be with your husband.. Hey its your life, if you think you will be happier with jeff go for it! I know it will be hard on your kids, but the happier you are the more happy they will be.. you put your self in the place you are in.. its wrong of you to be dishonest to your spouce.. im sure you feel bad about it.. leave him! You arent helping your kids if you stay around and fight with your husband..

Answer #4

I’m in the same boat. If it wasn’t for the children then I wouldn’t be here. But the fact of the matter is that I made a commitment to my husband and to our children. Yes I could leave him and be happier but it would leave everyone else feeling miserable. I see that as being selfish. My main goal is to give my children a happy, stable family life.

I know that you care for this man but any attention you give to him is going to take away from your husband and your children. So my advice would be to break it off with him and focus your time and energy on your family.

Answer #5

Why should you even care about your spouse or chilren?If you really cared,you wouldn’t have cheated. Hence you don’t really care. You’re a shameful excuse for a parent. =(

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