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What do I do if I still love my ex-girlfriend?

im still what you call a teen. but for 3 months I’ve gone out w/ this one girl that I’ve loved and cared for.(lets call her tori) turns out we had sum problems, and and we broke up. now im goin w/ sum one else who I’ve been goin w/ for 1 month and 1 week.(lets call her dani) I visited tori a coupple of days ago and from what I hear she is still obsesed over me. my feelings are the same tword her. but here is the twist, her dad called the cops on me when he was drunk. and he drinks all the time.but my feelings for tori is strong as ever. I want to express it to her and she wants me to but im afraid to hurt dani. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!

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Answer #1

i understand where you are coming from, but it sounds like dani is nothing compared to tori. you can't let yourself get caught up in worrying about dani's feelings. it will be extremely difficult to break up with her - but isn't it always hard to break up with someone? consider these points before you do it:

  1. if she really cares about you she'll want you to be happy . . . even if that means she can't have you.
  2. i'm sure she'd rather be able to date other people who might be right for her than be in a relationship that in essence isn't going anywhere.
  3. she might be really mad or upset at first, but surely she'll get over it and understand it when she takes a step back to see the big picture.

good luck, and let her down easy. be sure to tell her the truth though, in my experience that's the best, no, the only way. i wish you the best!

Answer #2

Tori… Dani… who knows? Look, at this stage of your life, it does not really matter anyway. Try to be happy with the woman you are going out with now, or stop using her as an obvious foil for the previous one.

You have to weigh all the pros and cons of dating Tori, will her dad take out the shotgun one day? Does she have any negatives that you aren't telling us about?

Being obsessed is far from being in love. You're going out for too short a time with any of these woman to have any real feelings right now.

Toss a coin (metaphorically) – weigh your happiness in the balance, and pick one then stick with her.

Answer #3

She’s nothing jsut handle it

Answer #4

go with her

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