I am stressed from work

I’ve worked with kids like this, and I’ve also been a supervisor to people like you who had to do it all day, every day. The first thing I think is that you need to speak to the person who is responsible for policies regarding this child, as amblessed says. You need to find a way to express your stress and your concern about the child and his treatment, without blaming your supervisor (you may feel s/he is to blame, but you won’t get very far by saying that!)

You need to ask, tactfully, if s/he is concerned that the child is getting the message that this kind of behaviour gets rewarded with special treatment. Either your supervisor will be able to explain the policy to you in a way which makes you feel better about it, or s/he will be open to your advice and make some changes, or, as amblessed says, you may need to look for another job. I can’t tell you which will happen, and of course things may take a while to change, but I think you are ‘in the front line’ with this child and your advice and concerns should be taken on board, at the same time as you learn from the experience of others in your team.

The other advice from my personal experience, which may seem bizarre to you, is to pray for the child. I had one little boy who drove me mad, and soon after I began to pray for him, a lot of things happened which resulted in me learning more about him and developing a much better way of dealing with him. In another job, when I was supervisor, I remember one of my Special Needs Assistants coming and just saying: ‘I need you to pray for me about this kid!’ She and I had both learned that prayer can make a big difference to how you handle this kind of exhausting child.

Other advice - take time for yourself at the end of the day, and totally ban thoughts about your job and this child while you relax. I found that a really necessary discipline - one other assistant told me: ‘I don’t get paid enough to think about this boy at home’ and to be honest, that’s largely true. Spend enough time to plan what you have to say to your supervisor, and to pray (?), but then let it go and do whatever you enjoy to relax. Banish ‘replays’ and thoughts about the job, and make sure that it doesn’t take over your life.

O_O;; well uhhh I think you should get one of those squishy things that relieve stress (not sure what theyre called) and kinda pump the living hell out of it everytime this kid gets on your nerves… or you speak to the head of the facility (if he/she isnt the same person who heads the room) tell them about the kid and what the head does everytime the child is showing bad behavior…

this is all I could think of…everything else had to do with scotch tape and a feather duster xD