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The chances of him taking my daughters from me?

As you allready know I have two little girls. 3 years old and 1 year old. There father is in the marine corp. he is in Iraq. we where together for 6 years he left for 4 days and came home he had cheated on me for those 4 days that he was gone for. he left me and my little girls with out no car. the next weekend he brought us home and droped us off with a hundred dollars and never left the car knowing that he was getting deployed. he left are family car with his girl friend the one that he had cheated me on with. I had to force child support. I asked over and over for the family car so I can take are little girls to the doctors he said it had it locked up in one of his friends garage so no one could drive it “witch was a lie” she had the family car.

I started getting my life together for me and my little girls. I got a job got my ged now I am I full time student in collage. but the thing is I live with my mother for right now for the extra support will the judge look down on that?

He tould me when he gets back in state he is going to take me to coart because I had tould him no. he had asked me if he could have are little girls for months with his new girl friend.

Witch I just found out she does have our family car and she just got into a reck with it and got a DUI.

I would like the girls to only be able to see him suporvised visits would that be to much to ask? considering his drinking back ground? I have pictures and Pictures of him and her with the dates on them of the time he left for 4 days and to go cheat. Most of them where with alcohol in them matter of fact all of them had alcohol in them…

what do you think about his chances of being able to take my little girls from me and what are my chances of being able to have my little girls all the timw with out worrying about when hes just going to pop up in there life again? when he just droped me and them off like dogs off at my mothers house just so he can go drink and be with his girl friend? Thanks

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Answer #1

the judge or court system will not take the kids from you at all. they havent any reason unless you doing the same. but since you went out got your GED and starting college and job. also they have a roof over their heads and are eating. why would the system take them from that. and how does he have time for them when he can get called back anytime. one thing is if he does take you to court you should show them and/or tell them what you told us. and plus the grandma is helping. sounds like you are in the clear. dont stress it. nothing to worry about. and once he tries that little stunt he will definately be paying child support. the dumbest thing is seeing a marine turn away from his family then try to get them back. his life aint much anymore.

Answer #2

gosh how terrible, you need to fight to keep your girls! they are better off without a father than one that will not respect them.

best of luck, xx

Answer #3

Hi there I am a young mother and I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you!! Hope everything goes well for you.

Answer #4

HUN NO HE CANT TAKE your GIRLS AWAY FROM you THE COURTS ARE ALWAYS ON THE MOTHERS SIDE UNLESS SHE IS ONE SICK PUPPY AND ITS GOOD your WITH your MOM SHE HELPING you GET BACK ON YOUR FEET AFTER HE KNOCKED you DOWN GOOD LUCK AND I WISH THE BEST FOR YOU..

Answer #5

So sorrry you came upon a loser and not a real man - consult a lawyer for your options but it sounds like you’re in excellent shape to totally have your say - I would say supervised visits - don’t see how you can trust either one - those girls are the priority, not him…hope you’ll consider having those girls grow up going to church and I wish you every happiness in your future !!

Answer #6

On behalf of myself and all the other Marines out there I would like to extend my sincerest apologies for what he has done to you and your girls, he has definitely disgraced himself and our Corps. There is a chance he could get custody depending on his plea and lawyer but the odds are in your favor. Also are yall still legally married? Because adultery is punishable under the UCMJ so that might be something you could look into to help your case, being a former Marine wife I’m sure your at least a little familiar with what the UCMJ is and does, you can google it for more info. My best of wishes to you and your little ones and no matter what he will have to pay child support, that is something that could get him fried, if he doesn’t take it up with his chain of command because they will definitely straighten his a** out.

Answer #7

Not a high probability, any man who cannot keep his manhood in his pants and take responsibility when doing “big boy things” such as having children including a long term relationship; then in truth he is still merely a boy in an adult body.

I recommend you get teh restraining order, if someone is going to abandon you like that..well it explains itself. In my opinion, if what youi’ve said is everything, the odds of him being able to take your child away is extremely unlikely, but keep in mind the court dose not particularly care about the psychological (broken heart) aspect of feelings(relationship or being dumped or broken hearted). However alimony is required till the children are 18, is available (in most if not all states I assume; law is not my specialty). Youre story is tragic, but I do seriously doubt he will be able to take your children. You are on the justified side.

Best of luck, my prayers go to you and your children

-JLTIV

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