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So my mom just started dating this man about two months ago.He wants her to be his wife yaddah yahddah yaddah! Well my mom left on wensday to got to his house and didnt get back until sunday I was suppose to test drive a car at seven but she didnt drag her @ss home till 8:15 claiming she left his house at 6:30 and there was an accident so she was stuck in traffic ! well I called VDOT and they said 95 south was clear and there had been no accidents all.Her boyfriend hasnt met me but dosent like me and is trying to convince her to get me to join the military or move out .I just turned 17 go to college full time and befor they started to date she didnt want me working so that it didnt affect my studys . Im so frusterated I have no way of getting around when she stays with him for 4-5 days and no way to get to or from a job .HELPPP

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Answer #1

This is a really bad situation. I feel for you. I think you really do have to confront her because from what you wrote, you are losing her and she isn’t being a good Mom.

I think you need to talk to her about it. Try not to get into a fight but just say the basics: I love you, I need you and I don’t want to loose you to some guy.

And also talk about this to someone else that you think she might listen too like her best friend, your aunt or someone you are both close too. They might be able to help you and reason her.

This new man seems to be very manipulative and possessive of your mother so avoid confronting him and talking to much about him. Help your mother see that hesays that he loves her but then he doesn’t accept and love you which doesn’t make any sens. If he really loved her he should be trying to be friends with you!

Also, what’s the hurry with the marriage??? What about meeting you first and really taking the time to get to know eachother? Try to convince her to wait a year at least!

I hope you can get through to her! Good luck!

Answer #2

sit her down and tell her your problems…other than clearing up your problems with her there really is no other way

Answer #3

Wow that sucks as h*ll, talk to her make her listen to you, make her understand how much you need some of her time rite now

Answer #4

I was a single mom for the longest time and personally, I used to tell people: I’m Nikki, I’m a single mom, I’m not dependable - I’ll break dates at the last minute, I’ll have to leave in the middle of a date.. and if you cannot deal with that, oh well.

Now I’m married - but it was with the blessing of my daughter (who mind you was 7 when we got married). Kids should always come first in a parents life.

I would find time to sit your mom down and tell her that you feel as though you are losing her. You aren’t sure of where your place in her life is anymore and that it hurts you.

Answer #5

well in my opinion the child should come before the new man I’ve had 4 stepdads so I understand to a point what your going through I would sit down and talk to her about it and play up the fact that you are blood and ask her whats more important to her if she says her new man you dont want to be in that sistuation

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