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How to prove that I didn't cheat just because I didn't bleed?

So.. im 17 and my boyfriend is 21. weve been together fro 10 months and jus finally got to the point were we were done playing around. so we decided to have sex. this past weekend and it didnt go so well. people say if your a virgin your supsoed to bleed the first time you have sex. other wise known as popping your cherry. well we were having sex for 7 or 8 mins I told him to pull out casue it was hurting, he looked at me was was like are you sure uve not cheated on me. well im positive I’ve not cheated on him, but when his mom and sister got home he asked them the 1st time they had sex. if the poped and bleed. well they said yes.and he thinks I cheated on him. I would take 100000 million lie dectotecter test to prove himm im right. but I was raped when I was 9 and never got checked out. altho my sister did. and she has problems today because what happened to her when she was raped. Its really hard to cope with him when he says he belives me but when I say I love you he says ditio like w/e and it really hurts my feekling he dont belive me. I neeep help??? can anyone give me the right advise. on where and what I should do or say. im suposed to go see a gynecologiest soon

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Answer #1

yeah you can pop your cherry from a damn tampon. it is not the first time having sex if you get fingered you can pop it even if somehowhoe you got hit hard enough down there it could pop

Answer #2

I def didnt bleed the first time. he really shoudl trust you after dating for so long. also if you did stuff like finering and what not previously then you are less likely to bleed…and if it was hurting when you first had sex then that proves you arent used to a penis being up there. so it doesnt matte rif you bleed or not. good luck, thanks for answering my question.

Answer #3

yeah not eveyone bleeds for the fist time… he sounds like he dont trust you..and if he dont then you dont need that hes needs to trust you, I’m not saying he did but if your were raped maybe he poped it?

Answer #4

Dear ditzel, If he really believes that all women bleed their first time (very untrue)…then you are going to have to educate him and have him speak with a professional. They will tell him this is not so and many girls loose their hymen through sports, riding bikes etc. Sounds like there are other problems occurring in the relationship stemming from him being uneducated. His inability to say I love you, perhaps he is beginning to withdraw from you. Also unless you have had some type of therapy about your rape you also will have problems through your life. You need to see a counsellor to discuss ways to avoid problems in the future if you are not experiencing any now. A ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Sue…good luck

Answer #5

sweetie…not everyone bleeds their first time…the bleeding occurs because the hymen gets torn, but know that your hymen can break while doing gymnastics, riding a bike, or doing other activities besides having sex. I really have to say if the first thing your boyfriend said was accusing you of cheating then you might want to rethink your relaionship with him…you do not want to be with someone who is going to not trust you…

Answer #6

If he is keeping to accuse you without real reason just kick his as*, and kick him out of your life.

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