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How to prove to my boyfriend that I didn't cheat?

So.. im 17 and my boyfriend is 21. weve been together fro 10 months and jus finally got to the point were we were done playing around. so we decided to have sex. this past weekend and it didnt go so well. people say if your a virgin your supsoed to bleed the first time you have sex. other wise known as popping your cherry. well we were having sex for 7 or 8 mins I told him to pull out casue it was hurting, he looked at me was was like are you sure uve not cheated on me. well im positive I’ve not cheated on him, but when his mom and sister got home he asked them the 1st time they had sex. if the poped and bleed. well they said yes.and he thinks I cheated on him. I would take 100000 million lie dectotecter test to prove himm im right. but I was raped when I was 9 and never got checked out. altho my sister did. and she has problems today because what happened to her when she was raped. Its really hard to cope with him when he says he belives me but when I say I love you he says ditio like w/e and it really hurts my feekling he dont belive me. I neeep help??? can anyone give me the right advise. on where and what I should do or say. im suposed to go see a gynecologiest soon, thansk so much~~ sara

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Answer #1

First you should go see your Gyno soon and just get checked out.. and tell your Doctor what happend when you were 9.

Your boyfriend does not trust you obviously- If he really loved you and trusted you he would believe what you said… He has no right to tell you that you cheated if you have told him many times that you have not cheated. He shouldnt be accusing you- especially if he says he loves and trusts you. Set your foot down- tell him the truth one more time and tell him if he doesnt believe you to leave..

Girls can tear or break there hymen (aka “cherry”) numerous ways when they are young.. Girls have even broke the hymen with tampons.. there are many reasons you are not bleeding..

but thats besides the point..

You not bleeding does not prove loyalty If he can not trust you or believe what you tell him- Why be in the relationship? You dont deserve to be talked down to, and be called a liar. Stand up for yourself..

Answer #2

it is true there are many of ways that your hymen cld tear (like riding a bike a lot, or tampons)…but it prob did break when you got raped…and sometimes it doesnt break the first time…because I have a older friend and her’s didnt breakher first time (she thinks it is because he dndt go deep enough or push hard enough)..but if your boyfriend really loved you he wld believe you that you dndt cheat on him <333

~steph~

Answer #3

THANK YOU ALL I when TTO THE DOCTOR ADND GOT ALL THE RIGHT ADVICE~~ SARA AND IM ON BIRTHCONTROL NOW!~

Answer #4

Your hymen most likely tore when you were raped. You shouldnt have to prove anything to him!!!

First off, stop trying to convince him that you are not lying. Cause he is being very condescending. You simply tell him that if he doesn’t want to believe you that is his problem, and that you will not tolerate his suspicions of you any longer. If he doesn’t trust you then he shouldn’t be with you.

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