I Love/hate my mom for no reason wasss wrong???help!

Yes that makes sense. I guess.Thanks!

I am 32 and I still feel that way about my mum! I dont think mum and daughter is the easiest of relationships. I very much wanted my own identity and she definately had her own idea of who I was. It was such a struggle for both of us. Ultimately though your mum does want the best for you and you are still young (im guessing here) so you have to respect her wishes on the big stuff. But maybe opening up to her a little more would let her see you are growing up and it would also make her feel part of it. I am sure that would make her feel special and loved by you. I am now a big advocate of negotiation and compromise when it comes to my mum. If you approach the situation in an adult manner then then she has no choice but to treat you like one.

You need to realize she has strengths and weaknesses just like you - change your attitude towards her…neither of you will always be around.

that’s how I feel too, and not only with my mom. with everyone else, too. I mean, unless you hate people being nice to you and love people to be naggy.

maybe you are wanting your independence and you feel like she is babying you. maybe you feel like she is treating you like a child, and you want to be grown up. love and hate are flip sides of the same coin…if you have strong love feelings for someone, then they can hurt you easily and those feelings can turn into what feels like hate sometimes. also, hormones can cause emotionally confusing feelings, and that is a normal part of growing up. ask yourself what it is about your mom that you love and respect. try to listen to what she says and then mull it around in your mind for a bit before you react. I know me and my mom used to fight all the time, and sometimes I felt like I hated her because she wanted to control me a lot and I am very independent. now that I’m a mom I can see why she wanted me to do what she said and respect her, but I also think that she could have respected the fact that I was my own person more too. maybe you could try talking to your mom about it, or write her a letter discussing it. she might be able to help you work through it and sort out your feelings.

It’s biology. Strange biology, but biology. Moms and daughters almost always have a bad time. And generally daughters have a tougher time than sons with everyone. More biology.

Just tell your mom how you feel and that you love her. Tell her often.