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I keep cheating on my boyfriend

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while and we have been friends for years. It started out good but now it doesnt feel the same it feels like we are more friends that boyfriend girlfriend. I love him so much but some things upset me about our relationship. Hes in a band which is awesome but hes with his band all the time and when he gets time with me he just plays video games and he drinks a lot. Well the main issue is the intemisy. We hardly have sex I cant even kiss him or get close unless he wants to because he always pushes me away and says hes to busy. Hes only 21 and his sex drive is very low. I like being close, cuddling, and having sex. I cheated on him awhile back and told him about it we split up for a while and I told him I wouldnt have the urge to cheat if he would show more passion with me. We got back together but still no change and I keep cheating bc hes not giving me passion. I dont want to lose him as a friend but he told me I would if he found out again. Relationships are not all about sex but it is part. What should I do? What do you do when you love someone that you dont have the passion in the relationship.

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Answer #1

I am in the same boat as you and I tell my fiance all of the time that I feel like a am almost neglected by him. Why we are even engaged I don’ know… he only wants to be intimate with me when he wants sex. To me, intimacy is more than just sex. It is feeling wanted and loved all of the time. It is coming home and getting a warm hug letting you know he is glad to see you or maybe just coming up to you for no special reason and holding you or even a smooch to let you know he cares. Why do these men wonder why women A. turn into lesbians or B. cheat… gee I wonder. I have not taken it to the point of cheating, but I have had conversations with another man who I have been friends with long before my fiance and I. Although another part to my fiance is he is very controlling and possesive in his own way. I could write a book about my life with him but I don’t want to take away from your post… I think you should tell him exactly what you feel. maybe not the whole cheating thing, but tell him you are feeling neglected by him and how could he blame you for being tempted to cheat? You are human and you need passion, love and affection and even attention. If he loves you he will understand and either change his ways or let you go.

Answer #2

Be honest with your selfcan you really see yourself being with him. Honestly I think you should dump him because it is the most respectfull thing to do instead od staying in a loveless realtionship. I think you should end it now becuase it’s the fair thing to do for him

Answer #3

Relashionships are never perfect and you need to compromise, at the way you are going no relashionship would last or fulfill you. Only real love, compromise, and comitment can make a relashionship last. This relashionship has no boundaries and without this nothing will work.

Answer #4

Continue the cheating, and if your b/f broke up because of it then accept his decision. It is not possible to live without enough sex and attention. I think you b/f silently accept that you get these 2 things from an other person. But you should not talk about it. Not you are the only girl in this type of life situation.

Answer #5

you should be clear with him

Answer #6

im 21 and my boyfriend is 55 I feel like an old woman we dont do anything but cuddle I cheat all of the time but I love him so much please help email me with advice kev4sarah@yahoo.co.uk

Answer #7

my boyfriend is 55 and in 21 hes always tired we dont do anything at all but I love him so so much and I keep cheating I feel like an old woman please help me email me kev4sarah@yahoo.co.uk

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