I hate my mom

I see the problem - its clear as day. You hate your mom. The one who brought you into this world. Now do you think when she went through many hours of extreme horrific pain to give birth to you after carrying you inside her for 9 months that she brought you into this world to see you get harmed or manipulated in any way. You have to ask yourself is my mom a good person. You may not be able to answer this clearly as your perception is clouded by your opinion of “I hate my Mom” so ask a non-bias person - Is your mom a drug addict, an achololic, etc. etc.
Then you have to look at things from her point of view. If you were her and she were you - would you want the best for your daughter.
The reason this is a good exercise to do is that life isn’t always easy or ideal. There are going to be many situations where you will have to comprimise or co-operate with other peope. Usually only moms negotiate with their kids so their kids will do what is best for themselves - other people can manipulate you to do what is in someone elses best interest.
Also boyfriends, husbands can come and go - only moms are there for you always. Find a way to respect her viewpoints while finding a way to have her respect yours and give you a bit more freedom. Trust is earned. Do what is best for you - I’m sure she only wants whats best for you. You can figure this out. Start talking to her and for heavens sake — stop hateing her — that only harms you in the long run.

she tells me she wish she would have gotten an abortion with me and that she hates me and that I am worthless. and that she hopes she never sees the day that I am truley happy and when I turn 17and a half she never wants to see me again she said that she would have put me in foster care but she wanted to make sure I was misrable …thats why I hate her

I had the same freraken problem and I swear it got annoyingexcept I dont have a boyfriend anymore so I didnt have aprob with that haha just comprimise with her