My problem is that I have become so used to masturbation for half of my life, that I have never been able to cum at all while with my girlfriend. We have talked about this, and she is hopeful that I will eventually be able to cum, but I am not so hopeful. My question is how can we have a baby (we both want to) when I am unable to cum inside of her while having sex? I don't have a problem with cumming on my own and while masturbating on my own, it's just I can't do it with her. So what options do we have so that she may get pregnant from my sperm? Please help, as I fear that I may never be able to have children with her unless we can find an alternative way.
My question is did you ever cum with someone else? Being able to cum alone but not while in presence of a partner indicates that there is some type of mental blockage. It is a rare condition but it happens and there is even books out there that talk about it. Unfortunetly, I can't remember which ones they are but if you research sex books you should find one that talks about your problem. The good news is that you should eventualy be able to cum with your partner but this means that you are willing to invest time into trying to understand why you aren't able to now. I recommend researching by yourself but also going to see a sex therapist who can give you tips on how to past this. Try to understand the problem and why you can't let go when with her. Have you tried just masturbating together whithout sex? Maybe once you cum in her presence you'll be able to cum in her too. Also, being able to cum in her presence will also be a great joy to your girlfriend. Not being able to share someone's orgasm with them can cause low sexual self esteem and frustration in the long run. Make sure you discuss these issues with her and that both of you have fun but also try to face the problem together. As for getting her pregnant, if can't do it the olf fashion way then try the first posters idea or, if worst comes to worst, you can also try artifical insemenation but that costs money.
Well that extra info changes EVERYTHING! No wonder you are having a hard time cumming with your girlfriend! This is new to you and you need time to ajust. Really, I don't think you should be so worried if it's only been three times. It takes time to feel confortable and relaxed around someone when you haven't ever opened up with someone so intimatly. The fact that you are nervous and scared will affect the possibility of you relaxing, having fun and cumming. Talk to her about it, take your time, play with eachother, there are so many things for you to discover together! With time and good communication and some experimenting, you'll learn to trust in eachother and have a great sex life. Last but not least, I don't think you should be thinking too much about babies right now since this just adds extra pressure. Have fun discovering your bodies and learning about eachother as people then if it all works out you can move to the next step of building a family together.
Maybe you should stop masterbating for a while, if your able to. Then you can build up and be able to release with her. Give it a rest and save yourself for her if you really want her and a baby. Plus, you also got to think is this the person you want to have a baby with? How long will your relationship last if this continues to be a problem? You have to solve the first problem first before you try to start a family with this girl, because having a baby with someone is serious business. You two may one day not even want to be with each other because of sexual differences.
I had the same problem man, I've been with my girlfriend for over 4 months and was never able to cum inside her. I was worried that I would never be able to to it. Then I started to read other sites saying it might be in my head so I tried to give it a tried and it worked. All I had to do was when it felt close to cumming I kept repeating in my head that I was close and that I wasn't able to hold in any longer. It worked and man did I feel a great not having this over my head anymore. Down side I don't think I can hold out for over 45mins anymore lol. hope this helps.
I have the same problem, been with my girl for almost 2 years and have had sex with her hundreds of times but can't ejaculate. At the start I can come easy but I stop so she can finish first then I can't have an orgasm unless I masturbate.. I can have an orgasm if I do her doggy style but she says it hurts her too much so I can't.. So 98% of our sexual encounters end up with her satisfied and myself masturbating.. How can I cum in her when I want (after she does)
one thing that works for me: I you really want to cum, then after doing foreplay, being inside her and all, start jerking off while on the traditional position (u on top, she laying on her back), so just start masturbating and ask her to slowly tickle your balls with her fingernails, that really is a turn on, at least for me. It won't be very long 'til you feel like you are almost cumming...so only then, go inside and after a few pumps, you should be done!
this is what I've herd works ...this thing where the guy goes to a doctor or someone like that and if you are really serious about having a baby this would be the best way they make you cum into a container and they get your wife's egg and join them outside of the body then they put the fertilized egg inside her... I forgot the name of it im sure you can Google it and find the name.. hope it helped
ghxazerial2 wtf your like 15 why do you have this problem and doesnt exposure to air kill sperm so im pretty sure that wont work. but what you can do isgo to a sperm bank like some others have so elegantly stated. but im jealous man if you can get it up and keep it up w.o gettin off sounds like every mans wish come true. you should ditch your girl and go into porn
Well, perhaps you should stop masterbating and actually marry your girlfriend before you impregnate her. This will alleviate the anxiety about ejaculating in her and will also solidify your relationship before you have a little one running around. Hopes this helps.
Oh and forgot to mention that this is the only girl I have ever been with sexually. I was a virgin before I met her, and we've had sex just 3 times. I am very nervous and scared when I have sex with her also, so maybe this plays a part in it.
just masterbate and your about to cum or while cumin got inside your girlfriend =]
or while doin her just imagen your masterbatin =] good luck
hey i was just googling the same problem and saw what you added, just wondering how did all this turn out? are you able to cum after all?
Cum on your fingers masturbating then finger her. I had the smet problem and this works. Hope this works for you
Maybe she's too fucken ugly. I can definately understand not wanting to come inside an ugly chick.
THEN DONT HAVE SEX >>> MAYBE YOU DONT THINK SHE IS GOOD LOOKING ENOUGH TO CUM IN HER!
cum in a cup, suck it up wi a srynge, and shoot it up her. lmaoo
maybe shes to loose..
