Why is my husband looking at women on YouTube (I want a man's perspective)?

I’m not a guy, but from my understanding we all have certain features of the same sex or opposite sex that we find attractive or desirable. Some men love looking at thin women, while others prefer the more full figured ones. It’s kind of the same as if you were to look for hot fireman calendars online or whatever else you enjoy (not saying you do, just using it as an example).

From what you’ve stated about your husband asking you not to lose the baby weight it seems like he thinks the full figured look is beautiful, which is nothing really to worry about. If this is lingering on your mind and is upsetting you, however, I think this is something you should have a conversation with your husband about. I’m not saying get angry about it, but I do think that communication on things like this is important in a marriage. If you let things build up, they will only do so until there’s too much inside for you to handle. Getting to that point is not a good thing, so definitely talk about it.

It is disrespectful for him to do that to you but the fact is that men who are past the honeymoon phase in the relationship do look at other women. Some do it more than others and those who are not looking are really tempted to do so. But I think is wrong that he is blatantly doing it in your presence in a vulnerable moment for you with the changes your body have taken.

It’s normal as long as he isn’t obsessed with it. Did your sex life have a dry spell while you where pregnant? I’d say it’s ok to talk to him and ask if he’s still attracted to you (I’d say he is, but sometimes our eyes wonder) At least he’s not looking at men, then you would really have a problem.

Lol.

Interpretations of situations like these are always going to vary. However, I think you’ll find that most men - and indeed women - will spend time admiring the looks of other men / women. A man is never going to be with a woman with the ‘perfect’ physical form, and sometimes - even unintentionally - our eyes will wander.

Many people state that this is an exclusively male behaviour, which could not be more unrealistic and unjustified. Personally, I have no issue with partners of mine (women in my case) admiring the looks of others. The way I see it, they are showing restraint by looking at them, as opposed to hitting on them.

The real issue that I am seeing here is that surrounding your partner’s request for you not to lose weight. If you have gained weight due to pregnancy, and you consider yourself to be overweight, then weight-loss is a healthy move. The fact that he is putting his physical desires before your health is of greater concern in my opinion.

He probably shouldn’t be browsing through pictures and videos of other women in your presence though. That is highly inconsiderate, but he is still showing restraint in some ways.

If I were you, I would speak to him about it and mention to him that his viewing of such material - particularly in your presence - makes you feel uncomfortable. Discussing this with him will give you better insight into why he is doing this. Moreover, communication is paramount in any relationship. We have limited information to work with here, and at the end of the day the person you really want to be talking to is him.

I went they this with my ex asked him point blank. He is looking in the wrong place for what he isn’t feeling or getting from u I didn’t listen to my gut or my friends till late but if he is doing that he is not worthy of u move on it will only get worse have ur cry and leave he will give all these excuses but just find new ways to hide it.sorry but I don’t want u wasting ur life…..

I went they this with my ex asked him point blank. He is looking in the wrong place for what he isn’t feeling or getting from u I didn’t listen to my gut or my friends till late but if he is doing that he is not worthy of u move on it will only get worse have ur cry and leave he will give all these excuses but just find new ways to hide it.sorry but I don’t want u wasting ur life…..ps the previous post is in denial we as women need to know what we will and will not take….good luck sweety..

I went they this with my ex asked him point blank. He is looking in the wrong place for what he isn’t feeling or getting from u I didn’t listen to my gut or my friends till late but if he is doing that he is not worthy of u move on it will only get worse have ur cry and leave he will give all these excuses but just find new ways to hide it.sorry but I don’t want u wasting ur life…..ps the previous post is in denial we as women need to know what we will and will not take….good luck sweety..

My girlfriend isn’t willing to do certain… ahem things with me. I still love her. I love her for who she is, not what she does for me. So yeah.i may still look up the occasional thing that she won’t do. I understand she doesn’t want to do them, and i’m okay with that. I don’t personally find it wrong to satiate those needs(unless I was cheating. That would be wrong). So… Yeah. I guess my point is… I’m guessing he loves you. But he also is sexually attracted to big butts(and i cannot lie(Sorry. I had to.)). Relax. :) He loves you already. You shouldn’t need to change for him. He already accepts you.

well, it could be because he wants more ‘satisfaction”/ “affection”. You should know what he wants…keep him engaged with you all the time…make him happy