Husband wants to be single again

There was one point in my marriage when I didn’t think we were going to make it. I had even told my husband I just couldn’t take it anymore and wanted a divorce while we could at least still be friends and before I learned to hate him. We had one child at that point. Anyway, the more I thought about it and dug deep I decided I hadn’t given it my all and I couldn’t walk away yet without trying just one more thing. I gave that marriage my all. I made sure I wasn’t a frumpy wife, that I fixed up for him and for myself. I told him how proud of him I was as a financial supporter, husband, father…etc…. I started doing little things that were just for him and only to make him happy. I HATE making Christmas cookies with the icing and decorations but they are his favorite. They take forever, make a mess in the kitchen, and all but he loves them. So I started baking them every 2-3 weeks in Valentine shapes. They were extra special to him because he knew it was a major effort on my part, he knew how much I despised making those things but I was willing to do it anyway. Just stuff like that, leaving love notes, etc. but it was all discrete without being in your face sort of stuff. Things I’d leave around the house here and there for him to find so as not to overwhelm him. That and I changed my “stinkin’ thinkin’”. I started to train myself to think of my husband in a positive light all the time and it wasn’t easy let me tell you. But I made myself do it anyway. It wasn’t an overnight success and it took work, effort, patience and consistancy. Eventually I began to honestly see him as the man I was painting in my head and then when that happened, he wanted to be more like that man as well I think. He saw the changes in me and so mirrored that back to me in return. He said later that he hadn’t felt respected in our home or special, but that he truly felt valued because I took the time to invest in him and in us. Every man wants to have his ego stroaked. See if little changes in you will help the situation. If things still fall apart, then you can leave knowing that at least on your side you did everything possible to commit to the relationship and make it work. He was just to immature to handle it. Some guys are that way, especially the babies of the family or only children. Good luck!!!