How To Tell My Mom What's Going On

If you read my last question (Is There Something Wrong With Me…Mentally?) then you’ll know what I’m talking about. I’ve tried telling my mom. Really,she’s the only one I trust…barely. Anyway,I need to know what the hell is wrong with me. I’m not joking at all! How can I tell her what’s going on without her taking it as a joke?!

Answer #1

There is absolutely no way to diagnose you online. Especially if it is a disorder that includes hallucinations. I dont see why she should see it as a joke… But… you can show her this page http://www.helpguide.org/mental/obsessive_compulsive_disorder_ocd.htm

and point out the things you have that are similar, and this is the DSM criteria. A. Either obsessions or compulsions:

Obsessions as defined by (1), (2), (3), and (4):

(1) recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress

(2) the thoughts, impulses, or images are not simply excessive worries about real-life problems

(3) the person attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, impulses, or images, or to neutralize them with some other thought or action

(4) the person recognizes that the obsessional thoughts, impulses, or images are a product of his or her own mind (not imposed from without as in thought insertion)

Compulsions as defined by (1) and (2):

(1) repetitive behaviors (e.g., hand washing, ordering, checking) or mental acts (e.g., praying, counting, repeating words silently) that the person feels driven to perform in response to an obsession, or according to rules that must be applied rigidly

(2) the behaviors or mental acts are aimed at preventing or reducing distress or preventing some dreaded event or situation; however, these behaviors or mental acts either are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or prevent or are clearly excessive

B. At some point during the course of the disorder, the person has recognized that the obsessions or compulsions are excessive or unreasonable. Note: This does not apply to children.

C. The obsessions or compulsions cause marked distress, are time consuming (take more than 1 hour a day), or significantly interfere with the person’s normal routine, occupational (or academic) functioning, or usual social activities or relationships.

If she tells you that you’re being silly, tell her that at the end of the day it is bothering you, you’re feeling worried and sad about certain things (like not being able to make friends) and you really would feel better if you talked to someone about it. Even if it turned out that there was nothing wrong, it would still make you feel better.

and listen, it’s not that your mother thinks how you feel is a joke. Parents have the hardest time acknowledging their kids are sick. It’s just so hard for them, that they dont want to accept it. So keep talking till she gets it. All she wants is for you to be well and happy, and she’d feel a 100 times worse if things got worse and she realized she hadnt listened the first time round.

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