How do I talk to my girlfriend about what happened to her?

My g/f doesn’t want to have sex with me and i don’t know why. i thought she would bcaz she’s 16 and already has a 3 year old daughter. so i went and asked her sister if she’s still in love with me. her sister said yes. she said that when my g/f waz 12 she was raped by a friend of their family. i really want to talk to my g/f about what happen to her but i don’t know what to say or do. I ALSO WHAT HER TO KNOW THAT SHE CAN TRUST ME AND LET ME IN EMOTIONALLY. Can someone please help me?

Answer #1

i dont think she owuld want to talk about it cause that is kind of personal i kno ur her bf and all but i dont think that it is good to ask her cause it might hurt her to tslk about it and myabe she just isnt ready to have sex yet give her sumtime

Answer #2

the best way to handle talk dircetly with her, if she loves you then she will open with you and will share her emotions with you. not having a sex may be have impact of raped at 12yrs age. talk to nicely and share your views with her. good luck.

Answer #3

thats tuff i wond up losing my ex bcuz of that when i was 12 i was raped and he used 2 aske me 2 have sex and i couldnt do it and i wouldnt explain why i wouldnt but its really she probably doesnt wanna bring those feelings back im sure that eventually she will be able to talk to u about it it just takes time it took me about 8 years till i was able 2 have sex but i still dont wana talk about it when im asked guyz say that they understand how we feel when that happens but unless they go thru it themselfs they can never understand wat goes thru our heads just wait be there love her respect her and let her know that ur there for her when shes ready she will open up to u

Answer #4

thanks 4 de help

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