How much does physical appearance matter in family court?

If you’re serious about getting custody over your son, why chance it? Why bank your son’s life in the hopes that some family court judge isn’t going to be jaded and wont hold a biased opinion? So what if your piercings close up? If you THINK it’ll help you win over care of your child, I’d go for it. You can re-pierce. But if you take them out in the bathroom right before court, and put them back in immediately following, they won’t close up. I had a two week old belly button ring that had to be removed for surgery, didn’t close up AND it wasn’t healed yet. If you’re overly self-conscious of the scar- you could put concealer on it, but it probably won’t matter to the judge at all.

If my son was being abused by his father, and I had to fight for custody, I’d sever my arm in a heartbeat if I seriously thought the act would sway a judge’s opinion in my favor. :) And with the hair, I’d cut it a bit. Trim it up at least, you know? So it’s straight at the bottom, not ratty looking. A sleek, well maintained, ponytail at the nape of your neck would look nice.

As for your being gay, it shouldn’t even factor into conversation unless your ex brings up concerns. Moms don’t typically molest their sons because they’re attracted to men. Men don’t typically molest their daughters because they’re attracted to women. This whole bs about gays being more prone to molest kids is ridiculous. I would be very surprised if it factored in at all to the judge.

Good luck to you- you seem like a nice person. :)

I should clarify, it isn’t that I’m afraid of them closing up so much as I’m afraid to touch the one in the eyelid. I try to leave it alone as much as possible, seeing as it is literally through my eyelid and I already put in special eye drops two times a day.

I’ve had that piercing since my 18th birthday. That’s almost five years, now.

I don’t want to take out the ear piercings because they actually look better in. I have so many piercings in my left ear that it looks slightly malformed when they aren’t there to cover the edge. I’ve also had that ear surgically re-constructed at one point but that’s another story, entirely. I used to get into a lot of fights.

When I said “well-maintained” it was supposed to cover the fact that the edges are very straight. I’ve actually contemplated cutting it back to the small of my back and I’m thinking this will be a great excuse to do that. I don’t really like the way it looks as much as the way it feels. Hair has to be one of the softest substances on earth.

They’re not even gaged (I have no idea how to spell it, either). They just hide that the ear is already a bit malformed. I had all of them ripped out at once, before. It was very bloody and reconstructing something made of cartilage doesn’t always work quite right.

That is a very big pet peeve of mine as well. I’m known to talk other males into cutting their hair when they can’t maintain it.

Honestly…judges have seen everything in their courtroom, you will not come as a surprise for the judge. They might at first glance judge you but after you talk and express your desire for keeping your son with you and your love for him they will be focused on what you’re saying, not how you look.

Good luck

If you don’t believe that these procedures exist:

Eyelid Piercing:

http://wiki.bmezine.com/images/2/23/Eyelid_Piercing-2.jpg http://damncoolpics.blogspot.com/2008/02/eyelid-piercing.html

Jewel Eye:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JslHtGG3xic