How do you know when your ready and not just horny?

To missrightgirl,

That is only your opinion and you shouldn’t impose it on others. I’m 22 and I’m in love with a girl I want to spend the rest of my life with too but I’m glad we’ve both had some experience before (she is as well) as firstly, the sex is so much better as we both know what we like and are experienced. Secondly we are even more sure of what we want in our partner and our much more happy that we found each other because of it.

That said, to answer the question though I feel 14 is a bit too young to have sex yet, you should only do it when you feel right. If you feel ready then there is no harm in doing it. But no one else can tell you when you’re ready.

Just ask yourself a few questions and they may help you decide:

1. Do you trust him?

2. Are you comfortable around him physically? Specially when you kiss and touch each other or any other sexual act you’ve done together?

3. Have you talked about it seriously and openly? Perhaps discussed safe sex and health issues related to it?

It’s a big step to take and you should take into account all these things and your own feelings about it before you decide. I’d also recommend that both of you get health checks before doing it and you should see a gyna as well and it’s best that you have safe sex atleast initially.

Lastly look around the net a bit, talk t someone close and mature specially if you have an understanding parent who is open to talk about these things.

Try this site and see if it helps: http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500a.htm

I found it had good advice and is worth a read even if you disagree. BTW it’s a positive step that you are willing to talk about it atleast, good job!