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How do I save this relationship?

ok so I have been with this great guys craig for about 2 years maybe a little more and the forst 6 months were AWESOME! I felt that sparkle and it hurt in my stomache right before I saw him or when I was waiting on him and I felt like his world and like I was the only person that mattered to him but now I just dont feel that sparkle when we hang out I just feel like its a routine especially when we say I love you and goodnight its always at the same time so its like something expected and not something just done because you mean it. I really do love him and I know that he loves me I just don’t feel it as much as I did and I don’t want a routine relationship I want to add some sparkle and our sex is the EXACT SAME!!! help me and give me advice how do I make us sparkle again? how do I see his heart beating in his eyes for me??? I want to make that same sweet smile he always gave when he saw me, come back!!!

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Answer #1

I don’t really have any advice I just thought I would let you know I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME EXACT THING

it sad too because sometimes I start to doubt if he loves me the same as he did in the beginning…but I know we love eachother so much but … I dont know … my jaw dropped when I read your question… its like you took the words out of my mouth…

Answer #2

We all get caught up in routines. If you want things to be different, be the initiator. Do something unexpectedly nice for him and don’t expect anything in return.

Answer #3

sometimes time away from eachother brings you together and brings that spark back.. like if you were away from him on a trip. That always helps me and my boyfriend. If he doesn’t seem like he misses you their might be a problem.

But he might not even think anything is wrong with your relationship, guys like to be comfortable and he most likely is.

Answer #4

and as usual, I agree with nerd and flossheal. the comfort and security of the next phase of love are the best. it is impossible to keep the “falling in love” feeling forever but you still will get snippets of it. sometime you will be doing something, look over at your partner and feel that “rush” again. but I enjoy the feeling of comfort that comes with the “loving” phase much more.

Answer #5

I agree with Nerd (as usual). You don’t spend the whole of your life falling in love with the same person. But you can love, and be in love with, that person all your life. I think you are noticing that the ‘falling in love’ period is ending, but it doesn’t mean the love has gone. Some people have given you good ideas here about keeping the spark going, and that’s important. But, along with the excitement, I remember all the fear and uncertainty in ‘falling in love’. Has that gone too? If so, I suggest you are going to enjoy the ‘loving’ phase more than the ‘falling in love’ one - it certainly stresses me out less!

Answer #6

It is normal for you not to have those tingly feelings anymore. It is the natural progression of the relationship. Have you ever heard of the phrase “the honeymoon phase”? Most couples have that and it does wear after time. It doesn’t mean your relationship is over. If you think that that is all love is, you are going to go through a lot of relationships. There are other benefits to moving past that phase. If you commit to someone, there is comfort in the security. You get to know that you always have your best friend around to bounce ideas off of, vent to,… someone that you know has good intentions for you to help guide you through lifes obstacles.

Answer #7

Change a few things, Spice things up!

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