How do I raise a well rounded child?

she might be in pain …that causes anger and also dont act like that in front of her she sees it and thinks its ok…children know when a parents upset they can feel it…dont stress about her behavior every child goes through it think back to when you were young think of a time you just randomly yelled for no reason and then you will understand where she is coming from…everyone has there own personality thats what makes them unique and as your child get older she will reolize right from wrong and start to develope a good personality…shes only 3 you cant expect her to know logic right now…you will see in time everything will get better.

I’m so sorry for your struggles. Your daughter’s diagnosis is a difficult one, and as I type this, I’m praying for you. :)

This will sound funny, but I think the best thing parents can learn is good acting skills. Your feelings are legitimate. I’m not discounting them at all. But part of being a good mom is knowing when to let kids see your emotions, and when to save grown up frustrations for grown up time.

If I’m boiling mad about an entire bottle of glue on the living room floor, I still calmly approach the “offender.” I don’t yell. I explain why it was wrong to be wasteful, and how we all clean up our own messes. He starts to clean it, and then I help him “finish.” (Can you guess what I did today? LOL)

Here’s my bottom line advice: don’t read anything written by a doctor or a somebody with letters after his name. Psychology is theories and garbage, and not provable by science… if it were, we wouldn’t have one high school drop out become a prison inmate and another Albert Einstein. They don’t know how to raise your unique child. They just offer generalities that may or may not have any basis in reality. (And too many of them have no kids of their own. LOL)

You don’t know if your time with your daughter will be short, or many years. Frankly, NONE of us know! Instead, read the Bible. God has blessed you with this little girl. He doesn’t allow everyone the privilege of being parents. He picked YOU!!! That is a privilege! God believes you are the perfect person to raise this sweet daughter, and He is faithful. He has TOLD you how to raise her! Proverbs gives general guidelines. Ruth is a great character lesson for a little girl. Read about the way God values children (Matthew 18) and how He creates them at just the right time and to the right circumstances (Psalm 139). Then be comforted…

To raise a “well rounded” child, you must begin with character. At three, you can talk about a different trait every month. Kindness. Gentleness. Being Polite. Having a cheerful attitude. Practice and talk about these things while cuddling on the couch. When things are difficult, when the anger comes out of her in a fit or something, make a sad face and speak softly and sound disappointed. “Oh, sweetie… that really wasn’t kind when you hit him, was it? Remember how we talked about being kind is when you consider others’ feelings? I think you owe him, and apology, and then we can try playing again, this time being kind.”

You CAN do this!!! At three, SHE can begin to learn these things. The time you spend telling her about what kind of mommy you hope she’ll be, what kind of friend you hope she’ll be, what kind of person you hope she’ll be… is time that is never wasted and always strengthens the bond between mommy and daughter.