How do I get through this mess in my teenage life.. Advice?

(*I am going to use fake names so its abit easier)

So, last night, 9 april, me, alex (the guy), my best friend, amy, and 2 other mates, tasha and hannah, .. Alex has fancied me for time, but tasha fancies him, but they are best friends. Alex doesn’t want to spoil their friendship, because he says he ‘loves’ me.. Yesterday, we all met up, and I asked tasha if she still liked alex, and she shook her head & said shes done with guys, and apperantley, my best friend amy had said that tasha swore on both of lifes she didnt fancy alex nomore. Night came, and me & alex got drunk, and I do not fancy alex what so ever! But when im drunk, I must of thought ‘hess nicee!’ and he kissed me, he made the first move (a loong kiss), and tasha saw, she walked off and threned to smash my face in,she called me a slag, to keep away from her, she’s never talking to me again,punch me again.. I asked her to do it, but she walked away. Alex ran after her, and he told her he made the first move.. But she went in her house. Alex told me tasha wanted to talk, I said fair enough, I went, (by now I was getting sober, I could walk like) and I apoligized, she didnt say much, she cried and slammed the door. And that was it.

Woke up this morning, with texts from another friend of ours (who wasnt even there! But hannah had told her), saying I deserved it and im loosing all my frieds and gaining a rep. (because this sort of thing happened 2 years ago but instead, the girl actually liked him, and I made the first move, but the girl has started talking to me again last july)

My mum has gone mad, she’s okay with me, she says im not in the wrong because tasha did say she didnt like him anymore. And so did amy.

Advice please? Were all 16-17 ..

Answer #1

You are not to blame and it sounds like everyone around you is hadling the situation very immaturely.

Alex shouldn’t hold back on his actions just because Tasha likes him.

When Tasha* calms down talk to her face to face about everything you have said up here, and that you didn’t mean to hurt her etc…

You probably shouldn’t have kissed Alex* knowing his feelings though don’t feel too bad on yourself becasue we all do stupid things when we’ve had a drink, next time try to avoid it happenign again.

You should proabbly speak to Alex* about what happened and be clear that it isn’t going anywhere but be clear you want things to stay as they are and that you value his friendship because you don’t want to push him away entirely. Act as normal as possible around him because it’d be terrible if it was awkward now.

Hope I’ve helped.

Answer #2

ummm it depends do you want her as a friend if so then just apologize and talk to her about but give her a while to cool off

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