How do I get or where do I go to get adoption papers for a child?

First of all, she is your daughter why on earth are you allowing your mother to interfere with your personal issues regarding your daughter? Stop allowing your mother to call the shots making you depressed & stressed out acting like as if she is her daughter, not yours while you sitting from the guidelines, and being treated as if you are the babysitter!!! Grandparents need to sit back & enjoy the kids not try to over step their boundaries!!! (Between you & me, she might be right on one level though) Second of all, I am kind of lost here are you separated from your husband or filling for a divorce? because if you are not why on earth would you want to give custody to some other relative!? She is your daughter, dont stand for that, step up to the plate, take control of your situation, and take care of you daughter!!! No one will raise her as her mother can or will. Please remember that before you seek any counseling or handing her over to any relative!

*If the child has no legal guardian written on a contract or other legal document signed by a judge then you really need to consult a lawyer because you might not be able to take her out of your jurisdiction without the fathers consent (if in fact you are trying to do so & are temporary separated from him)But I dont really fully know the whole situation to advise you any better! My best advice to you, is to seek some sort of legal advice, perhaps a lawyer that does pro-bono work in your area so it doesnt cost much if at all… ASAP(as soon as possible) I just hope it doesnt get ugly because the only that will suffer from all of this is you her mother & her!!!

Good Luck with your final decision!