How do I get my parents to realize I need to move out?

you need to get a master plan together and stick to it. I started my master plan at age 10 I was out of the house at age (just turned) 17 becuase I went to college a year early. PEACE OUT MOM!!! we get a long great now.

you need to sit her down and tell her this is YOUR life, not hers. and that you care not for her tips.

best advice I can give you is do not move with your boyfriend. Not because oooh its bad… or because of religious morals, or anything like that. Ask yourself in all seriousness - is this the man I am going to marry? yes sure, no - what are you going to do at the point that you both break off? do not be dependant on his share of the rent and all all that . I can tell you the marraoge rate of people that started at 19 is not very positive. She will also respect you for doing it on your own without him, she may be able to accept that.

tell your mom that the first thing uv learned was that it is against the law to hold a person hostage!…just kidding..you have to make her feel comfortable and close so she doesnt worry

well I think you shud just do it..your 19 no one shud be telling you what to do anymore if you know you can make it with out her then go for it im kinda in the same situation..and I turned 19 3days after you soo happy belated bday…GO AQUARIUS…LOL..funmail me if you wud like…

Honestly, I’m not sure what you can do since she does control your tuition. But do ask her if she would willingly forsake your education just to make a point. Is that truly how much she cares about your future… (And think about it yourself… they are your parents, would they casually throw away your future like that?) Are there any girlfriends you can move in with? Or perhaps consider rooming with someone else… I know it sucks you cant move in with your boyfriend (and I dont see any problem with it), but maybe some sort of compromise? At the end of the day it is up to you… You could wait it out till you’re done with school, and then they have no hold over you whatsoever… Or you could work and go to school, or you could get loans… or you could just hope that they care more about you than their pride and will continue to pay for your tuition…

Since you’re not moving out next week, then perhaps nikking off her “controls”, little ones first, might be the way to go…Like…”Mom, I think it’s time for me to feed and dress myself, without your input,,,if I get fat or look like crap, I’ll take full responsibility”… Then take the reins and do so. “Mom…I’m old enough to know when I should be home, in order to not be tired for school…I’m setting my own crufew”…then follow your own curfew. I don’t know if she’s holding school over your head for these small controls, but probably not??

As for moving in with your boyfriend, she does have ya in a corner on that one…and this is where you’d have to make a big decision…Can I make it on my own, without her help…using school loans? It’s been done by hundreds of thousands of others…

There’s the option of finding someone else to room with to make living more affordable, and then spending time with your boyfriend as you see fit…without technically living with him.

Mom’s are just “us” a few years down the road…I’m sure you’ve fought about all these things plenty of times…but, have you sat down calmly (emphasis on YOU being the calm one)…and talked about any of this? Calmness begets calmness…don’t let her push your buttons…keeping in mind that YOU have a goal, and that is to get unleashed from her apron…She actually might open up and say what going on with her…once she’s said it, and sees that you can understand it (which doesn’t mean at all that you agree, just that you can “see” it)…she’ may very well be more open about sending her daughter out into the world.

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